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Have tons and tons of GAL

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Saying it here for safety as I'd really like to say this to my W

"3 years ago today I married the smartest, funniest and sexiest woman I'd ever had the good fortunate to meet. I happily committed my life to you and our family and promised to love you and try and do right by you.

however it may have seemed, I've always loved you and been there for you even if I wasn't right in how I showed you.

Today I'm moving on with my life as that is what I need to do but I would like you to know that I still want us to be together. I still want our marriage.

I will Gladly do my bit so that we can share a happy and fulfilling life as husband and wife."


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I'm feeling the same way tonight, Jim. Brings tears to my eyes for the first time in a little while.


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What lovely words and sensitivity.

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(((hugs))) That is soooo sweet. If it helps to write what you would like to say to her, go ahead. Don't mind all the tears from the women here. smile


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Thank you. I would like to be able to say it and for it to make a difference.

Instead I will be content that I'm slowly learning how to express how I feel.


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Should I even acknowledge to my W its our wedding anniversary today?

I'm thinking not but I'm concerned that its just ever increasing distance between us and distance was a big part of our problem

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And how have things been between the two of you lately?


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Distant is the best description. Most of the time her demeanour seems to say she wants nothing to do with me but she doesn't say anything. She never asks what I'm doing and gives very short answers to any questions.

If we talk about the kids its nearly always positive and quite happy (I normally make her laugh)

Its mind reading but she just seems to silently resent me.


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Distant is the best description. Most of the time her demeanour seems to say she wants nothing to do with me but she doesn't say anything. She never asks what I'm doing and gives very short answers to any questions.

If we talk about the kids its nearly always positive and quite happy (I normally make her laugh)

Its mind reading but she just seems to silently resent me.

I don't know if she knows I still want our marriage as I've said nothing about this for ages and mostly just got on with my life


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