I am trying to do the space thing but I just don't get it, because he beat me to the punch and said I am not happy get out and give me space he gets to decide how this is done ?
Well let me put it another way. Do you want to save the marriage?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Of coarse but I would not go about this way. All the time and space is doing for me is giving me time to think about everything that was wrong. We know what is wrong - start working on correcting those behaviors. I even agree to stay separated but I do not get how not communicating helps things. I do not understan how he is the only who gets to make decisions
Married 6/1/96 Separated 11/10/14 at his request One 13yr old daughter One child in heaven
Also I still have stuff there at the apartment, I got all he had ready for me today. But still some more to go as he goes through the office - he is looking for title to the car which he is supposed to sign over to me,
Married 6/1/96 Separated 11/10/14 at his request One 13yr old daughter One child in heaven
I have read a good portion of the book, was frustrated in some ways because it seemed like nothing was about what to do once already separated, living separately, but I got their. I am trying, I really am, as committed as ever to trying this. Just wish he was reading this , I have divorce remedy and divorce busting.
Married 6/1/96 Separated 11/10/14 at his request One 13yr old daughter One child in heaven
I just messaged my DD. just asking that she could come over on sunday for dinner. She said she is with a friend on saturday and doesnt WANT to come. She is using the all the same vocabulary and wall that H is using. I cannot complain to him. I cannot make her. what do I do?
Married 6/1/96 Separated 11/10/14 at his request One 13yr old daughter One child in heaven
she lives with him, I have really no contact, that is what i am trying to give him. and he is allowing her the same. He tells me just give her time! She is saying she needs time and space also!
Last edited by Wewillb; 11/26/1402:11 AM.
Married 6/1/96 Separated 11/10/14 at his request One 13yr old daughter One child in heaven
