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claire7 #2508567 11/19/14 02:07 AM
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Can someone please translate WAH for me?

He brings the kids back home from Scouts. He's very friendly, much friendlier than in weeks. We praise S8 together and laugh about something (kind of a lot), he asked me very warmly about my first day and if the job is what I was hoping for. We work out a little detail about the schedule.

He left promptly. I don't feel any particular warmth for me personally, but it's friendlier. We looked in each other's eyes a few times. He didn't seem to want to hug me.

It is what it is for today, right? Warmer is better. I like being back at work so much, and I have a very different set of ambitions now than I had when I was 22 and fresh out of college. There's a lot less pressure on me now, and significantly more competence and motivation to do well. It is MUCH nicer to be 22 than 42.

I am so very blessed.


Me42, H40
D12, S8, S7
A revealed: 7/13
Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15

She believed she could, so she did.
Maybell #2508584 11/19/14 02:46 AM
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I meant much nicer to be 42 than 22. wink


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A revealed: 7/13
Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15

She believed she could, so she did.
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It is what it is for today, yes.
Warmer is better, yes.
Nicer to be 22? Wait a sec...No thank you, Ms. Maybell! (I hope that was a typo!?)
Glad to hear you are enjoying work!


Me 38 H 40
D 3
T 8 M 6
BD 10/2013

claire7 #2508587 11/19/14 02:57 AM
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"Maybell - I recently started listing 3 things I'm grateful for, every day. I can say it has helped me a little to seek the positive during the day. We're supposed to do it for 21 days."

21 days? Dang, I been going almost 90.

"I feel like if I could learn to see him as though I hadn't spent all those years with him, that it would transform both of us."

Maybell, you have no idea how much wisdom is in that quote right there. ^^^^


Me 47 - W 35
M 9 - T 10
2 Daughters - 7 & 9
Discovery of EA- 8/4/14
S - 8/5/15
D mentioned - 9/11/14
R & Piecing - 3/17/15
Regard one another as more important than yourselves.
- Philippians 2:3
claire7 #2508589 11/19/14 03:00 AM
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Yes, take the win for the day. I find it an interesting opportunity NOT to reciprocate so that we leave them wanting, unsure if we have really moved on, safe that they can express warmth without getting into a R discussion. (Then again, when it's my W, I think I HAVE to reciprocate otherwise she'll never be nice again. Sigh...)

You had a wonderful day. I'm glad you reported on your first day. You're doing great in so many ways. Keep posting.


M39 D6 D3 (at S)
S 2014-09
D 2016-09

"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
Mozza #2508609 11/19/14 03:53 AM
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I don't typically post Bible quotes because it's too easy to take them out of context, but I know the context of this one and I like that it was today's passage:

Hebrews 12:1-2
Therefore let us also, seeing we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, lay aside every weight and the sin which so easily entangles us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising its shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.


Me42, H40
D12, S8, S7
A revealed: 7/13
Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15

She believed she could, so she did.
Maybell #2508614 11/19/14 04:21 AM
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Maybell,

Thanks for posting this. I needed it tonight. Congratulations again on the job. You and so many people here are such an inspiration. smile


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It's good to be excited about something that's just yours, isn't it.

And the WIN goes to MB!


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss
claire7 #2508788 11/19/14 05:13 PM
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Congrats on a good first day! Best of luck in your new journey. Sometimes having an outside focus is a very good thing.


Me 52, H53
Bomb drop 9/29/2014
Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014
Marriage #2 12/31/2019
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Dawn70 #2508868 11/19/14 06:46 PM
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Vets... I know, let go. But he seems awfully committed to being apart. It feels final. Am I going through a new stage of grieving?


Me42, H40
D12, S8, S7
A revealed: 7/13
Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15

She believed she could, so she did.
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