Maybell, you gave yourself the best advice: let go of that rope. Don't let your currently foolish H control you with that role (whether he's trying to or not). I can't WAIT to hear about your first day! To me, you are on of the most inspiring stories I've read since I've been on here. The 5K thread (get on there and update! Turkey trot in 2 weeks!), being there in that dark hour on my thread, networking and finding a great job, haunted ziplines!! (or was it just a zipline at a Halloween fest? Either way...fun to read about) You're a gift to the community here and have picked me up many times, whether you realized it or not.
Like you said, you're a peach. Go get em
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
Clearly I need to detach further. I need to hold that rope more loosely. I need to look forward and see what the world has to offer besides him.
Sigh. I can totally do this. I'm a peach. And I have a killer outfit planned for tomorrow with fabulous red patent leather heels. (Totally professional, just with a touch of zing.)
Red heels are the bomb. I've got red and black suade? Sp and a patent red and black hand bag! Kick ar$re heels I call em.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
Clearly I need to detach further. I need to hold that rope more loosely. I need to look forward and see what the world has to offer besides him.
Sigh. I can totally do this. I'm a peach. And I have a killer outfit planned for tomorrow with fabulous red patent leather heels. (Totally professional, just with a touch of zing.)
I'm just going to say, let go and accept the reality of your situation in this moment. You're holding on to something that is no more.
You're holding on to a lot of stuff from the past. Free yourself.
You have this day.
What's good in it?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
Maybell - I recently started listing 3 things I'm grateful for, every day. I can say it has helped me a little to seek the positive during the day. We're supposed to do it for 21 days.
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
My heart goes out to you as I feel like I could've written some of your posts myself. I second what Card said in an above post about how you are a gift to the community. Your posts are always inspiring to me. Hang in there and do what you need to do for yourself and your children.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
It felt really good to be back at work. I have a TON to learn and I'm really excited about it.
The school guidance counselor held a talk last week about gratitude that I can't believe I haven't shared here! She challenges the kids to imagine they were stranded on a desert island with only the things/people they were grateful for the day before.
What would you have left in your life if you had only what you'd been grateful for?
How different would your life be?
(btw, I set this challenge to my kids the other night. D11 said she was grateful for chocolate. S8 said he was grateful for "everything I like." D11 said she was counting on getting washed up on the island with him, I said she'd better treat him better so he'd be grateful for her. :D)
I have so much to be grateful for. I am ENORMOUSLY blessed. H doesn't remember he loved me? I'm not gonna lie -- it hurts a lot and is incomprehensible. But I'm growing so much and have learned to be more open than I was. So I guess he'd be on the desert island with us. But OW wouldn't be.
In the spirit of updating, I will mention that he sent a text at 8:30 wishing me good luck on my first day. Which was nice.
I feel like if I could learn to see him as though I hadn't spent all those years with him, that it would transform both of us. So I guess that's the target I'm aiming for in the "let it go" effort.
Thank you all so much for the kind words. You'd make the desert isle with me.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
