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Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
Things are ok. I am about to be at a work event, H is home with D12, teens are at places they had arranged preciously. I will update when I can. I so much appreciate the thoughts and prayers and outpouring of concern for me today. You guys are the best.
Hi RPP. I haven't been posting much lately but I've been following your thread and wanted to add my voice to your throng of supporters. I hope you're still doing ok.
So, this is how it all played out. Saturday morning was when we planned to tell them, so they'd have time all day Saturday to process it. D12 had spent the night with a friend, so while I went to pick her up, H took the teens to breakfast at their favorite place. When we all got back to the house, we were gathered in the breakfast room and H told them we needed a family meeting, and proceeded to cover the points in the script we had agreed upon. D16 asked right away if either of us was seeing someone else. My answer was of course no, H's was of course yes. D12 cried some. D16 cancelled plans that she had with her dad for tonight. S19 didnt' really say anything.
After that S19 left for his girlfriends house, which is what he had planned all along. And as it turns out, H left to spend the day with some business partners visiting from China, so that left me alone in the house with the girls. Kind of a relief, really, to not have H around. I talked to each of the girls separately during the day, told them how much both their dad and I love them. D12 is sad. D16 is angry at H. D12 wants to see H's new place. D16 swears she will never go there.
Last night I had a work event, S19 was still at his gf's house, D16 had a babysitting job, so that left H and D12 home together, which was probably good for both of them.
Later in the evening, D12 came in my room and we sat on the bed together and she cried and vented for a while. At a really inopportune moment, H came walking in and said, "Is everything OK?" I snapped and said an unkind thing. Later, after I had gotten D12 in bed, I apologized to him for saying the unkind thing in front of his daughter, and this morning, I apologized to D12 for saying an unkind thing about her dad to her. H heard me tell her that.
This morning, we are all at church together, and then we will go to brunch for S19's birthday celebration.
So.....other than the one place I briefly snapped, things went as well as could be expected. I've tried really hard to point out all the things that will be the same, be honest about the things that will be different, and be supportive of H in the sense that he's a good dad and loves his kids.
I feel nothing for H today. I'm not angry, I don't want revenge, I don't love him, I don't want him back. Just nothing.
