Newcomer With Hope

[gan]

And here's the thing...I've come to realise that these were the things we should have been doing all along. Whatever it takes to keep us happy and moving forward...that's got to be good for a relationship no matter what state it is in.

[Jefe]

ganb8te, Yes. I believe you are correct. If I had been working on my flaws and ignoring hers I think I would be in a much different place today.

Oooohhh, Australia. Got a soft spot for Australia.

[LisaB]

Little, I totally hear you! To be completely honest I LOVE living alone. In fact, small secret is that I don't want to live with WAH again. Or really anyone else for that matter. I am sure that could change but being able to do whatever I want in my own home is such a luxury. To not have to call someone if I will be late to make them dinner, to be able to do whatever I want in my free time, to be clean or messy if I feel like it, to not have to deal with someone else around all the time.

The truth is I don't miss living with him at all. Not at all!!! And I'm sure that is the one thing he misses most about me. ha!

I love your attitude, you sound so strong and confident. I am sure that attitude will l help lure your BF back, and if it doesn't you will surely be fine anyway.

Hugs, Lisa

[TRDiver]

Jefe,

Ahhh Australia, as a US expat living in Queensland, I say come on over. It is fantastic here! I can't wait to get citizenship!

Little, you seem to be doing well, keep it up!

[Little]

Something about this evening has me missing him. Not sure what, but I want to reach out to him and ask how his weekend was.

I'm not going to. I need to remind myself that he's chosen to separate our lives and very may well be starting a relationship with someone else -- who knows. Regardless, by all appearances he doesn't want me, and if he missed me, he'd be reaching out to ME.

Doesn't mean I don't love the person he is when he's not an alien and miss him.

[Jefe]

I know the feeling, Little. I miss my wife so much it physically hurts, sometimes.

Me and the kids had a fun outing today and I had forgotten about it for a minute, then it just slapped me in the face.

It does get better though. I can at least laugh and smile this week.

[Little]

Just saw this on Facebook and it reminded me of myself and everyone here on these boards:

"It's become such a rarity nowadays to find somebody to fall in love with and stay in love with. People seem to forget how beautiful it is to grow old with someone, to build and witness someone's progression and to conquer obstacles as a team instead of facing them alone.

I guess it's safe to say there's not enough thrill in that for them. There's no thrill in knowing someone like the back of your hand.

I guess that's why you could say I'm an old soul. I don't need to go out all the time and switch people up every week to fulfill my bordem with temporary happiness.I always wanted something real, someone so genuine that they're worth lasting a lifetime with. Someone who's willing to invest time and effort that's needed to win, instead of forfeiting when "there's no coming back". I understand it's nearly impossible nowadays to count on someone with all your heart and soul. It's more dangerous, if anything, but I guess that's why you can count me as one of the rare ones.

I'm not just in it for "a reason, a season, or a lifetime", I'm in it for all three."

[u-turn]

Thanks for that Little - it's refreshing to hear that there are others out there that feel this way.

[Jefe]

That's awesome. I'm stealing that and posting it on my thread and my FB.

[Little]

Sure thing, guys. I feel it so deeply, too.

And just for the record, I found an excuse to text BF and had a short conversation where upon he asked me how my weekend was and how the cat is doing before he told me he was headed to bed.

Oops. My will power is nil tonight.