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#2490517 09/23/14 11:59 PM
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Been over 3 years and still miss my family. Not sure why the sudden sad feelings. Maybe is Autumn. Maybe i needed to post. I dont know. Is this normal? Though i it was all behind me.....?


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I think you will have triggers that will crop up from time to time if not out of the blue. It lessons with time. I know for me it does help that I have my kids about 90% of the time. The boys are gone a lot with work and college. I expect S19 will be moving out soon since the baby ism due the end of January.

Funks come and go. You will be fine. How is your daughter?

kat


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Absolutely normal! Hey, your life was secure...you had everything you thought you'd ever need and then it's gone. Why wouldn't you miss that. Kat's right, it comes and goes and it's again, absolutely normal.


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You right. I know what triggered it. Had a docs appoinment and came home early. On my way home i saw several school buses. Was remembering coming home and seen my kid watching cartoons. Kat my daughter is ok. Still not going to school or working.

Good to know that this is normal..


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And for the record im doing pretty well. Life is fun most of the time. Im healthy im paying my bills and my gf and i get along great.


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i think it's normal. somedays i have triggers and it makes me so extremely sad. i guess the difference now is that i can pick myself up and move on from it quicker but.. it's still sad just the same.


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I am right at the 2 year mark. I still get a little twitch of pain, almost every day. Sometimes, I have it really bad. It is just so difficult to let go of history, the memories, the reminders. I think it's normal to feel sadness from lost connections. It is for me anyway. I hope the hurt will lessen over time for you, and for all of us.


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hey rick,
good to see you again. Funny, exactly the same thing happened to me. Been three years come October and as I neared the date, suddenly the blues set in. I kind of attributed to the changing of the seasons, loss of sunlight, anniversary date, etc, etc, holidays coming. So, you are not alone, pretty normal it seems. Hope all is well,


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Hey Gunny long time no hear from you. Yeap triggers. They get easier everyday. Im doing pretty well. Life is amazing. We should have a beer one day. We are not too far from each other. Hope your life is amazing also


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