Something to consider - fairness. What's that mean and why do you get to judge what it is when you don't know everything?
Not sure what you really mean or I'm just not sure how to answer...
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How is the job going, Tad? Seems like you really like it. Is that the case?
Yes, I do like it. There is already talk of moving me up. It's just talk right now, but we'll see. Also, the perks at this place are unbelievable.
Things aren't what I'd like them to be financially yet, but things are better than they were.
Personally? I'm starting to get lonely and want someone to share things with. I'm sort of getting googley-eyed over a girl I work with...
I'm really sorry about your dad.
Kimmerz...................
I will see the "lovely little gal" tomorrow (Sunday) night when I get to work. It's funny, I look forward to seeing her at work more than I look forward to my weekends.
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She sounds like a keeper to me! Yay!
Me too, but there's the work thing.....
So Kimmerz, maybe you can shed some light since you are a member of the female club: What do the mixed signals mean???? I mean, I'm almost certain that she likes me and enjoys spending time with me, I mean, it's obvious, but won't date anybody she works with.
A guy that I work with told me that he can tell she likes talking to me and talks to me more than the others. He says that she'll only talk about work stuff with the other guys we work with.
What gives?
I'm more confused than a baby in a topless bar.
Tad
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
LOL that's too funny, confused as a baby in a topless bar!
Honestly Tad, I really don't know what those mixed signals mean!! Im a little stumped myself too! My first instinct would be that maybe she's playing hard to get... but then again I may be wrong! Maybe she just said something she really didn't mean because she's googlie eyed over you too... you know the silliest things can still come out of your mouth even when you're an adult and seriously twitterpated!
Yep, you're really crushing on this girl I can tell! I really think you should ask her to go do something fun together. Something you both enjoy, then that way it may not seem like a huge official "date" to her????
Or you could just be bold and tell her right out " I know you said you don't want to date co workers, but I really wish you'd change your mind on that! Because I really like you and I'd like to spend more time getting to know you better."
That will make her think twice.... oh ya it will. If she clams up after a statement like that and how she's acting now, I truly will be stumped.
Yes, I'm crushing on her pretty bad. I may still ask her to go do something fun, but I may wait a few weeks. Don't want to seem desperate, too pushy or scare her away....
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My first instinct would be that maybe she's playing hard to get...
Yeah. I just don't know. Why do girls do that????
I'm still a little curious as to why she acts the way she does and then says she doesn't date coworkers....Like I said, I'm pretty sure she likes me.
Tad
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
Saw her again tonight. Of course she came over to my work station and hung out for a while. She enjoys talking to me.
It's weird though. I've got a crush on her, she doesn't date coworkers, but she is the one that seeks ME out....like a magnet.
Maybe I'm just a good talker??? Don't know.
Tomorrow should be fun....we share the same work station.
Bwahahaha!
Tad
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
Tad does she talk about other guys with u? Does she get advice from you? Anything like that? Please be careful and try not to get to close until u figure out if she is in the "friend zone". She may be attracted to u OR she may just like hanging with u as a friend. Regardless if she gets to really liking u, she will break her own rule. So kinda just sit back and let her come to u, don't act as interested and she if she comes closer.
Tad does she talk about other guys with u? Does she get advice from you?
Good question. Actually, we've talked about EVERYTHING EXCEPT guys:
Movies Things we did over our weekends Books Good places to eat Rollercoasters Our job Her aunt's illness A bad motorcycle accident that her ex-boyfriend in college had My sitch A charity event that she was involved in Music Our grandmothers Concerts Astronomy New York city (where she's from) Why she's not married (hasn't found mr. perfect) TV shows Kids (has no desire to have any but if it happens, it happens) My rats Her career (She's a brain and has degrees in math,science,meteorology) My radio career Her mom and dad Jewelry (She buys a lot of it) The Beatles (She's a Beatles freak, but too young to remember them....she's kind of a throwback) Our upcoming weekend plans Places we'd like to visit My son's band Chocolate
...and the list goes on.
Like I said, no mention of guys, but we've talked about EVERYTHING else. She IS single though because I asked her friend who we work with about it. As I mentioned before, she is usually the one who seeks me out to talk to me.
As for advice, she hasn't asked me for any.
She looked very pretty tonight. (Just sayin')
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Regardless if she gets to really liking u, she will break her own rule.
Haha. That's what I'm hoping for.
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So kinda just sit back and let her come to u, don't act as interested and she if she comes closer.
Yeah. That's the plan. Just going to be myself like I have been and see what happens.
This is all just so weird for me. I haven't been "in the game" since I was 17.
You women sure are fascinating creatures.
Tad
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
Fascinating creatures lol as well are u men lol, Well friendship is always good, just go slow as u said. Yeah dating again is def something I never planned at this age as well. Tad u are stilll healing and it's so easy when ur lonely to fall for someone. That is why I say please be careful, no expectations. I dated way too early because I was lonely and fell for someone I normally wouldn't have chosen. It didn't end well and I went thru hurt again. I learned my lesson the hard way. I wasn't ready to date. Today I am enjoying life and the next guy will be different, he won't be someone to just fill a void. I won't settle again. I have learned, still learning, to be happy alone, a partner will now be a added bonus. Do I have bad days, sure, but those are getting better and I have learned coping skills. I am in a much much better place though. Tad I want u to get there. You need to get there actually before u go looking for mrs. Right. Have fun but please take care of Tad right now.
