Hi Kat, you know that you are wonderful, as do all of us here that you have helped out. Please don't let B & N bring you down. Some place will see you for the great person that you are, and things will fall into place from there.
That is so sweet of you Tom. I appreciate you lifting my spirits with all you are going through. Yes, even my S22 said Mom you will figure this out. Don't worry. Did I mention I am the queen of worry? I have to focus on me right now, I can't control the other stuff that is going crazy around me.
I know it will all turn around. I keep putting in this effort and I can see it, so I don't know what piece I am missing to making it all click.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
S19 just told me that ex's wife is going to his girlfriends baby shower. I am mad, upset and hurt. She has my ex and now she wants my grandchild too... I know I am probably over reacting.
I am in tears.
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
YUCK! Are you going? Have you ever met her? Who invited her? I guess the kids can invite her if they want to but I have to say - I would also hate that.
Nope, never met the .&$@)(!?@&$)(. She would have to know how disrespectful it is. My son is trying to justify it and gosh It hurts. I said if this was just your dad's wife, not affair partner, it would be different. Man all this pain from the past just flooded up.
My other kids are saying they( ex and his wife) don't want to be with me either. Coud have fooled me on this one. My eyes hurt from crying so much. I am trying not too. S19 is saying he didn't realize it was a problem(really where has he been?) or he would have said something to his girlfriend. Guess he has never told her the whole mess.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I've been at this for 13 years. Haven't met her. Don't want to. I think you need to talk to both your son & his girlfriend & let them know how much this hurts.
The shower is November 2nd. I mentioned it to ex that I would need the girls back early so we could go to the shower. I hadn't RSVP'ed yet but like I said S19 just dropped it on me. He said his girlfriend isn't super fond of her either but that she has been helping her figure out insurance and stuff.
Then the real kicker was that he said she would be this child's grandma too. Talk about kicking me when I am down! Here I am starting to get a better grip on their situation, and I am not even thinking about her, just my kid. I feel as if I have fallen backwards a couple of years.
I am not out to create a scene, this shower isn't about me but man, I am really hurting. Guess I am being the baby now.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I guess the reality is that they will be including their father in the baby's life so his wife will be a natural part of that. I think the shower will be the first part. And I know you will be the bigger person. Over the next couple of weeks you really have to figure out how you are going to do that. But you will.
Stay far from her. Don't say anything you will regret. Be as supportive of son and his girlfriend. The baby is a reality. Best you improve your R with the mother of your granddaughter.
