H has re-written history to say that he hasn't been happy for 5 or 6 years. I wasn't thrilled after the stock market crash, either, but that had nothing to do with my M.
In this particular conversation, it was D12 re-writing history. ;-)
Last edited by rppfl; 10/21/1403:53 PM. Reason: edited to say, I popped over to your post and I'm pleased to know a guy that uses "fixing to" correctly
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
Rppfl, Just catching up on your last few days. I really admire your stamina. Re writing history is a WAS staple. In my sitch by the end, all 15 years were terrible and she had doubts about marrying me early on in our R.
I am in the " so glad its over" camp now, and I know its not a popular opinion on here. However I am going to say that I feel so much better. Physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
M42 W40 T17 M15 S13 S11 BD 7-14 A discovered 7-14 WAW moved out 10-3-14 D final 2-23-15
Bdub, it's not that it's unpopular for me as it is just one more marriage lost and kind of chips at my hope a little. I don't blame any one of you guys for throwing in the towel. I may be there at some point, too. I admire you guys and your strength. I could possibly be the dumb one for staying.
Right now, I am standing right here.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
Jefe, you stand for as long as you feel you can/want to. It may only be a one in a million shot but someone has to be that one. People win a lottery all the time.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
bdub, no one else can tell you what to feel. If you are happy to be done, then you are. I think DB gives us tools to stand if we want to, it doesn't dictate that we have to.
Jefe, stand as long as you want to, it's not dumb. That's how we all ended up here originally.
As for me, I don't know what I want right now. I'm standing until he moves out. And then I don't know. We have agreed that neither of us will file for four months after he moves. So I have time. I have made it six months so far, four seems do-able.
On the flip side, OW seems to have a lot of stamina also. I don't know how many months she preceded BD, but she's put up with a lot of lies in the past six months. "No, honey, we don't even sleep in the same room. I swear I'm moving out next week. Or the next. Or maybe next month. Or the month after that." Ha!
Just finished my dr appointment. She is recommending the surgery. So my H no longer wants to live with me and take care of me, and now I really need someone to take care of me. I'm just going to take a moment and wallow in self pity for a few minutes.
