Am I on the right track? (2)

[wmwb123]

Wet, her father was very strict, but not abusive. I love him. He's an awesome person. She gets along well with him. I respect him immensely. I would do anything for him.

I did all the begging and pleading before I found out about the affair, but in my STBXW's mind, she will still remember it as begging and pleading for an unfaithful spouse, so she has zero respect for me, I'm sure. Our contact has been very limited by her, so I guess that's a good thing. I haven't been able to mess up too badly (except for exposing the affair, if you consider that a mistake).

This panic attack I'm going through actually means nothing. Mediation is still at least two months away. And since we're not in contact at all, she will not see any kind of attitude change. The situation has not changed. However, if the divorce goes through, I will be finished. I'm willing to reconcile if she comes to her senses before the D is finalized, but after that, I'll be heading out on a new path.

[wmwb123]

I don't know how you guys do the detaching thing. I haven't communicated with my W in more than 2 months. No contact. Zero. And yet, I'm still on a roller coaster of emotions.

[MrBond]

"Since she never complained and never answered me when I asked, though, I have nothing to go on in that regard. I have been self-reflecting and working on the faults I can identify on my own."

She probably did tell you or complained in the beginning, but you either blew her off or didn't think that was she said was important to her. It's not up to the spouse to be a better communicator, it's up to you to be a better listener. Just because you didn't think there were issues, doesn't mean that she felt the same.

[wmwb123]

She probably did tell you or complained in the beginning, but you either blew her off or didn't think that was she said was important to her. It's not up to the spouse to be a better communicator, it's up to you to be a better listener. Just because you didn't think there were issues, doesn't mean that she felt the same.

Maybe so, but it's a moot point now that she refuses to speak to me and is living with her affair partner.

[wmwb123]

Why am I on moderation?

[wmwb123]

Sorry for the panic attack, folks. I'm not done. I'm just weak. I really should be on antidepressants, but they knock me out, so I can't take them.

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[wmwb123]

Mediation has been set for mid-December.

[wmwb123]

I'm doing better it would seem, because the news of the date being set didn't depress me. I went to the gym today and did a full workout. Took the dog for a walk when I got back.

[wmwb123]

Okay, so we're not supposed to get the WAW's parents involved, but what if they want to do something? I can let them stay with me and reach out to her, right? They love her, and they know this adulterous relationship is not good for her. I shouldn't ask them not to come, right?