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Rent a Black Daytona Spider and drive around in White loafers and a white sport coat.


Me 47 - W 35
M 9 - T 10
2 Daughters - 7 & 9
Discovery of EA- 8/4/14
S - 8/5/15
D mentioned - 9/11/14
R & Piecing - 3/17/15
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Originally Posted By: Jefe
Rent a Black Daytona Spider and drive around in White loafers and a white sport coat.


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ILYBNIL 5/14
A discovered 6/14
D papers served via USPS 8/14
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Interesting. My wife's lawyer requested mediation. The first date available is not until December! In my state, when there are no children, the whole process is usually complete within 60 days. One divorced friend said hers was done in 30 days! I'm really praying that my wife will come to her senses during the mediation process like Nitty's husband.


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If there is a casino, gambling is always nice.


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Well, folks, I think I'm done. Thank you for all the words of encouragement, but I don't think I can do it anymore. If my wayward wife came back today, I'd tell her to bug off. I've reached the end of my patience. I know I'll be okay. I'll meet someone who is a genuinely good human being and not a fraud. I look forward to a better life with a better companion.


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Awe, CC. I understand, my friend. Best of luck to you. Please check back in and let us know how you are doing.

Thank you so much for you're support and prayers.

I will continue to pray for you.


Me 47 - W 35
M 9 - T 10
2 Daughters - 7 & 9
Discovery of EA- 8/4/14
S - 8/5/15
D mentioned - 9/11/14
R & Piecing - 3/17/15
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I'll continue to pray for you and all my other friends here. I just can't do the DBing anymore. Nothing has changed in my sitch, but every day that goes by I find myself more hurt. I can't take it anymore.


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"I'll meet someone who is a genuinely good human being and not a fraud. "

This thinking is what's fraudulent. She was a good human being, fell in love with you and got married to you. After reading through your posts, I saw that all you did was center all your efforts on the A. You never explained in detail what happened or what you may have done to cause her unhappiness. And just to be clear, I never said her having an A was your fault. That is all on her. But it takes two people to break a relationship. Whether it's on purpose or ignorance, there are two sides to the story. It's never as simple as the spouse finding someone else to fall in love with.

I hope you're willing to learn how to deal with your resentment in a healthy manner.


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Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

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Thanks for your reply, MrBond. I know there were issues on my side. Since she never complained and never answered me when I asked, though, I have nothing to go on in that regard. I have been self-reflecting and working on the faults I can identify on my own. I think I'm becoming a better person as a result. I didn't mean to say I was stopping DB to stop working on myself. I just meant I don't think I want my STBXW back anymore.


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Hi CC,

Yes, it was about 8 month's ago my W told me that she was dating other men. I was confused, I had no idea why she was doing this while we were married, and I reacted poorly.

I think you have reacted ok so far, and you have the advantage of being on DB. Just know that if you don't throw in the towel now, that its still a long road in front of you. But I am happy that I have chosen the path to stand for my marriage, to work on myself, and that I did not rush into a divorce.

Do you think your W is in a MLC? What was her relationship with her father like growing up?

No one should have to go through the pain that you are going through now. Stay strong and take care of yourself.


Me-54 yrs; W: 50 yrs
4 kids- D: 22,20,19; S:15
"Trial" Divorce: 04/14 - 6/14
Separated: 06/2013- divorced 08/2016

“The strongest of all warriors are these two — Time and Patience.” War and Peace
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