Hey Old Dog! You are doing great! I wish I could claim some amazing skills but I think this time it was luck. Plus I felt crap about it until I realized there were actually some positives hidden in the fact that I stupidly started an argument with my WAH over OWs and R talk... Hope you had a great weekend! Hugs, Lisa
Just checking in, really glad you posted that Sandi link about friendship.
Keep your chin up!
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
Can I just say that in addition to your PMA, I really respect that you are willing to take risks and mix things up. I know you didn't plan to get angry with your H but you've controlled yourself so well til know that I have to believe a little part of you was trying something new. You're always a source of new ideas on my thread and it is soooo appreciated. Thank you.
So when's the rescheduled meet up happening. I'm rooting for ya!
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014
I had my dinner with WAH last night and it was fine. There was no R talk, no weirdness really. Just a nice dinner between friends.
I'm quite confused.
I felt no attraction from him at all. There was absolutely zero flirting on his part. None.
We ate and talked for three hours or so. He did not try to get close to me or touch me at all. He did not look at my body and he barely looked into my eyes.
It was completely friend zone.
I'm not even sure how I feel about it. I kept looking at him and wondering myself if I was attracted to him or not.
Aside from the complete lack of romantic overtures it was a nice evening. One of the first times we have not discussed any R talk or anything about his or my dating which was a relief. It was very calm and friendly, relaxed and easy. There was really no tension.
I'm somewhat concerned about being in the friend zone but I suppose if he is not attracted to me or romantically interested in me at all then there is really nothing I can do about it. I am good looking and sexy. He once was attracted to me. If he is not anymore then oh well. There really is nothing I can do!
The elusive "sparks"... maybe they are missing. I don't even know how I feel about it.
We have plans to meet again in a few days. I am just going to keep doing what I am doing which is being friendly, happy and showing PMA. We'll just have to see.
If anyone has advice or insight about the missing romantic and sexual components, I'd love to hear it!
I'd say the situation is tense even if it's not -- if that makes sense. It's hard to find sparks when your mind is racing a mile a minute wondering what someone's thinking and where they're going with "this".
Who knows what could develop in the future? You were attracted to each other once and I don't think that just disappears. It's just circumstances are weird.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
