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1foot2 #2497513 10/16/14 11:47 AM
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Right there with you. Couple of shows I can't watch because I watched them with my W. Not stopped her though


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I think the important thing for all of us is to NOT bring this up to our WAW. I can't see a way to bring it up without portraying ourselves as being a little clingy (if not very clingy). I'm going to play a little game, though, and see what happens. I'm going to play the next 2-3 episodes today on my phone while I'm at work (not watch them). Then they will show up as watched on our shared account. Won't say a word to WAW about it. Not expecting any response, either, but it may show her that I'm independent on this, too (even though I also can't bring myself to watch it yet).


Me 38, WAW 30
D11 (former marriage)
S2
T 8 years
M 3 years
BD 8/20/23
S 8/20/23
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Now that I see it playing (it's The Office), I'm reminded why I like the show. I think I'd be fine watching it by myself. I'll probably start S9E1 tonight. I'd hate for this trick to work so well that she invites me to watch the last 3-4 episodes with her, yet I haven't actually seen any of the season leading up to it. I want to portray to her that I've moved on, but I should also actually move on, as well.


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D11 (former marriage)
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T 8 years
M 3 years
BD 8/20/23
S 8/20/23
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LBS's, are you wearing your wedding ring?


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T 8 years
M 3 years
BD 8/20/23
S 8/20/23
Card29 #2497747 10/17/14 01:50 AM
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yep, when the D is final i plan on wearing it on a chain around my neck. my love, like the circle of the ring, is without end.


M40 XW35
M11 T15
S9 D5
Bomb 6/3/14
Papers del 10/3/14
D final 12/5/14

I wish I could love you and make you believe it
'Cause that's all you ever wanted
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Oh, you've gotten to the ring topic already? We all come to it in different ways.

Mine's been off for a few weeks. I rarely think about it anymore, though every so often my finger kind of itches because it's not there.

You'll know when it's right to take it off or leave it on. For me it was linked to where I was in my detachment journey.


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Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15

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Nope. I haven't worn it since H rolled in at 6:30am after having spent the night with OW. This was the day before we left on a family cruise and after he had told me he had ended it. I was up all night worried about him.

I have ordered a ring for myself that I will start wearing when H moves out. I am more comfortable with something on that finger, but it's a physical sensation more than anything. Twenty four years is a long time.



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For now I still want to wear mine. I recently switched to a black silicone ring. It is safe for my work and is soooo comfortable. I like how the black looks. I also feel susceptible to flirting sometimes (though not lately), and I think the ring wards off some of the potential temptations.

The reason I'm asking is that I've seen a response from my "mysterious" behavior out of WAW. Really I'm just GALing and having fun for my own sake, but it obviously got WAW's attention. Now I'm thinking of intentionally ratcheting up the mystery by taking off my ring. For now, though, I'm content to wear it for myself. I don't blame anyone for taking theirs off, though. I might be there soon.


Me 38, WAW 30
D11 (former marriage)
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T 8 years
M 3 years
BD 8/20/23
S 8/20/23
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H hasn't worn his since before BD drop. That's how the whole thing came up. I asked him why and asked him to put it back on. The conversation went downhill from there.



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"H hasn't worn his since before BD drop. That's how the whole thing came up. I asked him why and asked him to put it back on. The conversation went downhill from there."

I know that conversation too well. My wife took hers off two weeks after walking.

I refuse to take mine off.


Me 47 - W 35
M 9 - T 10
2 Daughters - 7 & 9
Discovery of EA- 8/4/14
S - 8/5/15
D mentioned - 9/11/14
R & Piecing - 3/17/15
Regard one another as more important than yourselves.
- Philippians 2:3
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