She'll be here in 30 minutes to pick up the girls and take them to a party. Not looking forward to this interaction.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
That went OK. She started the picking and comments but I quickly established boundaries. I'm not being very good at this "Loving Detachment" presently. I feel so hopeless and overwhelmed at the moment. A flood of emotions, thoughts, questions. Our situation is horribly difficult and entangled.
I wish these seemingly little interactions did not send me reeling like they do. I guess its a sign of not being detached very well.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
HA, and she "unfriended" me on Facebook apparently this morning. Because I now have people texting and messaging me to see whats going on. How utterly childish. Didn't really want to have to deal with my friends and family this way.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
There will always be setbacks, Jefe. No one does this perfectly. Don't beat yourself up. She's going to have to figure this out on her own. You never had any control over that. If you have Intel on the man she's with, though, maybe you should tell her out of concern for her well being and not to change her mind about you.
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I didn't want to post a wall of text in this thread so I started one just for it.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
She not threatening to "take" them just doesn't want to have to discuss where she takes them when she has them. In other words she wants to be able to take the both to visit OM1 and not have to tell me about it or discuss it with me.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
W just left after dropping the kids off. She took them to a movie after church today. Stayed detached, cordial.
Anyone ever notice the look in their WAS's eyes where you just know they miss their old life but they are just so dug in they don't know how to come back?
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
I met my now wife as well during my first marriage and like you I handled my first marriage poorly. There was multiple affairs while we were stationed in Alaska and I stuck through it. But many things kept piling up. My first deployment to Iraq was ugly and I needed time to adjust when I got back. I didnt have the strength to keep the marriage working as I had for the last 14 years prior. (marrried at 17 because she became pregnant.)W2 and current wife was a friend that I eventually had an EA and when I left my wife I went to her. Things were rough when I went to Iraq my second time shortly after the first. She had the baby premature and things were rough from there. She was a WAW 6 months after second deployment. We pieced things I changed a ton and things went well for a few years till now. So I feel your pain. God had blessed my second union many times but I feel the inner turmoil from war and the way i did my first divorce wrong stuck with me some. It also though makes me even more resolved not to let this M end without a fight. Will be praying for you.
Me 38 WAW 40 S 10 S 5 M 5 years BD 10/04/14 S 10/04/14
God had blessed my second union many times but I feel the inner turmoil from war and the way i did my first divorce wrong stuck with me some. It also though makes me even more resolved not to let this M end without a fight. Will be praying for you.
Thank you CMS. Its always good to hear from someone that can relate very closely. I absolutely feel convicted to not let this marriage end without a good fight, God has weighed that heavy on my head. I can attest, you don't walk away from a divorce, no matter how bad the marriage, unscathed. It leaves indelible impressions on you for the rest of your life.
I am following your situation as well. Prayers for you too.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
