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Links to previous threads:

First post: DENIAL was my HAPPY PLACE!!!
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...100#Post2473100

For better or for worse, for richer or for PORES?
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...846#Post2475846

Carry on, My Wayward Son (of a Beeeeaaaaach!!!)
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2480267#Post2480267

Well, enough about me, what do YOU think of me???
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2483967#Post2483967

PERSEVERANCE is Stubbornness....with a Purpose.
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2487201#Post2487201

Welp, he's gone. Wait-- Do I smell....BACON??!!!?!!!?
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2488871#Post2488871

Dusting off my $h*+ kickers....Let's keep DIGGING!!!!!
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2490531#Post2490531



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M44, H44, both M before
M4 yrs, T6
BD 7/13 ILYB something isn't right with me
H att suicide 2/14
S 4/14
OW disc 5/14
No D filed

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Ok, this is...the part when I BREAK FREEEEEEEEEEEEE

*music notes* I'm stronger than I've been before....*more music notes*.

Well, you get it.

Let's do this.

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You.Got.This

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Shining,

I am memorized by your thread. Your growth, external processing, strength, self blaming, amazing kids... incredible beauty...

We're so much alike! wink

You're so right. uR has some incredible insights and I've gained a lot while reading through your exchanges. It's funny how something you've heard or read 1,000 times suddenly helps you take a deeper breath, wipe away long streaming tears, swallow the lump in your throat and sticks with you.

When she said to you that this process is necessary. That there's no way around it, just through. I've said that to others. I've said it to myself. I firmly believe it. I know it to be true but for some reason the way she said it or the timing, who knows... I needed to hear that - AGAIN.

Today has been rough, yes, but for no good reason. It's not like I had some evil exchange with H and now I'm hating life. I just can't seem to manage these emotions that come up seemingly out of the blue. They never used to do that. It makes me feel out of control but also I feel like I controlled my emotions for so long that now they're saying "STOP, pay attention to me!!!" so they stream down my face all the time now.

It hurts, man.

Anyway, I don't want take over your brand new thread.

Thanks for stopping by mine. I'll visit this new thread more often. We really are in similar situations.

I wonder if an IC would be something I should look into. >sigh<


M: 37 H: 36
M: 13 T: 18
D: 7
Bomb: 6/30/14
Separation: 8/11/14

Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve.
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Ss, You're not taking over!! Post as much and as often as you wish....it's all helpful when we share this stuff!! The real world doesn't get it.

Yeah, you said it....this stuff hurts like nothing I've ever experienced...and I thought I had been through he// before..... Nope.

I don't typically visit newcomers, but I believe you had posted here a time or two. The few times I've peeked at your thread.....yeah, crazy....the similarities

It's clear you are getting great advice already. But, something just resonated tonight when I read your post.

We all receive and absorb information differently. uR's words have really sunk in deep for me. She is somethin' special. Yeah, uR...I said that. You knowit. Deal. wink

I can't pay it forward through experience (yet).... But I can share the amazing perspectives offered on my thread, when I see a connection to another. There is so much help on this board.

I'm on a good up-swing at the moment, and I'm going to run with it. Come up there with me....I hear there's bacon. whistle

You're welcome to chime in anytime!

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Shining,

I was thinking about you. Glad to hear your headed in the up direction!


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M:36 H:35
T: 19 M:12
S:11
D:9
BD: 5/4/14
Proof of OW 8/13/14-love note from her
8/19 admits OW
8/22/14 files D w/o telling me
9/20/14 Says he wants to reconcile
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Thank you for checking up on me, Ats! I was just getting caught up on you, too. Glad to hear from you!! I'll post over on your thread smile.

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Bacon, you say? I'm in!!

I'm heading up the mountain for that upswing, Shining. I appreciate the invite. Who knew there'd be bacon in the Himalayas?

It's true, there's amazing information and wisdom all over this board. One just has to be open enough to suck it all in.

Onward, together!


M: 37 H: 36
M: 13 T: 18
D: 7
Bomb: 6/30/14
Separation: 8/11/14

Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve.
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Yes, bacon!! I can smell it...the aroma is wafting rather nicely....I'm dang close.

I did awesome today smile

Cuckoo MgGoo played a word...then sent a text. I didn't check my phone until about 30 min later, which is good for me.

THEN I didn't respond for 2 hours because I was ACTUALLY BUSY!!!

So, of course, as I finish my celebratory self-patting of the back and reply to H, I realize....garshdangit!!!!! I did it again... Suckered.

He sent me, what else? A medical problem. So what did I do? Oh, you know, start asking if he's experiencing xyz symptoms. Fixing. Blechhh...

The GOOD news is I caught myself. And stopped. Right after I sent that, I followed it with, "sorry! that was me trying to help....but you don't need me to do that for you." And that was it. I got out.

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Shining,
I'm glad you caught yourself before you went too far in asking what his symptoms are. Poor baby, he want's "mom's" attention and pity.

You are doing great. Keep up the good work!


Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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