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Nitty #2496706 10/13/14 04:40 PM
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"AMEN" to both of those. Great, unselfish prayers, and I believe that God will move!


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BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07

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Heavenly Father,

Thank you for this day and the people you have put into my life. Father, thank you for my beloved spouse and children. Thank you for the love you have for me and the forgiveness you have given me. Thank you for your Son, who lives in me.

Lord, thank you for the love you have poured into my heart. Your unconditional love overflows my heart. You know my heart Lord and the depths of my love for my spouse. I pray that you will pour your abundant blessings upon her and me. My spouse is a very special person to me, who I love dearly and will never leave nor forsake ever again no matter what. I know that my past had wounded my heart, but you have healed it and taken away the things that kept me from loving as you would have me do. Lord, I pray that you will continue to change me and make me into the husband, and father you would have me be. Lord, I know I hurt my spouse and caused her heart to harden. Lord Jesus, I pray that you will soften her heart and lead her to you and back to me. I know she believes in you as do I. Lord, your word has shown us what you would have us do and that you want us to stay together and forgive and reconcile. Lord, I pray that we will both submit to your will and reconcile. I pray that you will heal and restore our marriage.

Lord, I lift up other hurting marriages to you. Father, marriage and our spouses are gifts from you. I pray that you will touch all of our hearts and bring us closer to you. Bring our spouses close to you. Restore our marriages so that we may be one as you have shown us in your word.

O God, we pray this Marriage Restoration Prayer in name of Jesus Christ – Amen


Me 47 - W 35
M 9 - T 10
2 Daughters - 7 & 9
Discovery of EA- 8/4/14
S - 8/5/15
D mentioned - 9/11/14
R & Piecing - 3/17/15
Regard one another as more important than yourselves.
- Philippians 2:3
Jefe #2497292 10/15/14 03:56 PM
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I think this fits our situations pretty well too:

God CAN and WILL Turn a Prodigal’s Heart!


Me 47 - W 35
M 9 - T 10
2 Daughters - 7 & 9
Discovery of EA- 8/4/14
S - 8/5/15
D mentioned - 9/11/14
R & Piecing - 3/17/15
Regard one another as more important than yourselves.
- Philippians 2:3
Jefe #2498821 10/20/14 08:45 PM
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"Dear God, I give you what I am, but I especially give you what I'm not. And I'm not going to stress over it. I am not going to be frustrated over it. You change me. You make whatever You want me to be. I am Yours, gifts and weaknesses, here I am. In Jesus' name, Amen.


Me 47 - W 35
M 9 - T 10
2 Daughters - 7 & 9
Discovery of EA- 8/4/14
S - 8/5/15
D mentioned - 9/11/14
R & Piecing - 3/17/15
Regard one another as more important than yourselves.
- Philippians 2:3
Jefe #2498833 10/20/14 09:29 PM
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^^That's a good prayer.


M 16 T 17
W moved in w/ AP (OW) 5/14
ILYBNIL 5/14
A discovered 6/14
D papers served via USPS 8/14
Filed my response 9/14
D final 5/15...
Jefe #2498850 10/20/14 10:36 PM
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Originally Posted By: Jefe
I think this fits our situations pretty well too:

God CAN and WILL Turn a Prodigal’s Heart!


Wow Jefe ... I am book marking that link, I needed that more than ever today. I decided to take a delivery ... just to get out of the office and do some PR with a client. The truck has no radio, no AC, no cruise ... nothing. I was alone with my thoughts and the beating wind for 3 hours. I went through so much in my head and realized .... I am my own worst enemy, it is out of my hands and I had a talk with God ... seemed I was the one doing all the talking ... lol. But yeah .. That link is a nice reminder... and one I will revisit.


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BD Sept13



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Hi everyone, I thought I would bring up something that may cause you to think I am crazy. But perhaps some of you out there can relate.

I believe there is a spiritual bond between two people when they are together. The longer together the stronger the bond.

So I was recently at a chicken wing restaurant with my s13. And the female servers were not provocatively dressed, but they all wore tight tops. So s13 was tired and almost sleeping in his seat, and I started looking at the numerous young women in the restaurant. And I was having inappropriate thoughts, and ALOT of these inappropriate thoughts.

Please trust me, this has never happened before. I do not gawk at women, and I always keep a proper decorum when I am out. But that night, I looked at each server and my thoughts were out of control.

Perhaps this is a rationalization, but I don't think so. I think I tapped into my separated W's spirit, and something provocative was going on. My theory: I had inappropriate thoughts about the female servers at this restaurant because my W was involved in a sexual situation at the same time.

Sometimes I feel depressed, when there is no real reason for it. And when I pray and ask for a God to place a wall between my W and I and the depression always leaves. Anecdotal evidence? Of course, it is. But there may be something more going on in the spiritual realm than we realize.

Anyone have any similar experiences?


Me-54 yrs; W: 50 yrs
4 kids- D: 22,20,19; S:15
"Trial" Divorce: 04/14 - 6/14
Separated: 06/2013- divorced 08/2016

“The strongest of all warriors are these two — Time and Patience.” War and Peace
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You're overthinking things.

"My theory: I had inappropriate thoughts about the female servers at this restaurant because my W was involved in a sexual situation at the same time."

No it's because you haven't had sex in a few months. It's a base human desire and it's nothing to be ashamed of. You're a guy, they are attractive women. Period.

"Sometimes I feel depressed, when there is no real reason for it. "

Of course there's a reason for you to be depressed. Rather than being with the woman you love with your son, you're alone. We all get that way. Believing in God and knowing He's with you is great. But it doesn't compare with having a flesh and blood spouse with you to physically hold your hand and comfort you.

That's why it's not easy.


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Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER
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Lord, I pray for Your will in me so that I may do Your will through me. Hold me up when I'm afraid. Give me words when I fail. Give me strength when I want to run. Give me courage when I want to hide. Your will, not mine.

In Jesus name, AMEN.


Me 47 - W 35
M 9 - T 10
2 Daughters - 7 & 9
Discovery of EA- 8/4/14
S - 8/5/15
D mentioned - 9/11/14
R & Piecing - 3/17/15
Regard one another as more important than yourselves.
- Philippians 2:3
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Hi everyone, I wanted to share an encouragement for prayer. If you ever feel like your prayers are going no where, or bouncing back from the ceiling, check out Pastor Timothy Keller's answer about "unanswered prayer":

Religious News Service: Why do some prayers go unanswered or seem to?

TK: J.I. Packer says that ultimately “there is no such thing as unanswered prayer.” I believe that is true, though from another perspective...

In other words, God will either give us what we ask or will give us what we would have asked for if we knew everything he does. This means there is a “safety catch” on prayer. God won’t give us things we may ask for in our limited knowledge that wouldn’t be the best...


Me-54 yrs; W: 50 yrs
4 kids- D: 22,20,19; S:15
"Trial" Divorce: 04/14 - 6/14
Separated: 06/2013- divorced 08/2016

“The strongest of all warriors are these two — Time and Patience.” War and Peace
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