Time for a new username then. It's never healthy to NEED another person. Our spouse should be the frosting on our already purpose-filled cake of a life, not the cake itself.
"I WANT my wife back, but I don't NEED her -- not the marriage we had before, for sure. I WANT to build a new marriage with her, that is better than before, but I realize now that if that doesn't happen, I will be okay" is what you're shooting for.
Of course, it takes awhile to get there.
Starsky
Thanks, Starsky. Yes, that username was what I came up with shortly after she left, and I was a wreck. I'm past that now. I no longer "need" her in the sense that I can't live without her. A lot has changed in the past four months.
M 16 T 17 W moved in w/ AP (OW) 5/14 ILYBNIL 5/14 A discovered 6/14 D papers served via USPS 8/14 Filed my response 9/14 D final 5/15...
I'm still a wreck. But I'm climbing up and out of the chasm slowly.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
Ouch, Jefe, I do not like seeing a post like yours. Anything you would like to share?
FunDad, you are in my prayers on your meeting today.
May I ask a protocal question for the circle? Do we want to start a new post for the circle? Or is it alright to keep it on Jefe's? I know that Starsky's prayer was placed on nmwb/wmwb/CC's post. It would be nice to have this consolidated somewhere. Thanks.
Alternatively, it would be cool if the moderators could start a forum just for prayer requests...
For years, they've always had one. Didn't get a ton of traffic, but they had one. Looks like it was deleted in the recent board purging/updating. Too bad.
I think the prayer is more productive when it's specific to to certain individuals that have a common bond or relationship. I mean, in reality every single person on this board need our daily prayers. But we can become prayer warriors to those people with whom we build bonds with. that could be through a new thread for us or left right here. Matters not to me. Just my 2 cents worth.
What's to share, Wet? My wife left in a fit of self, I hate that my kids are becoming emotional wrecks (me too), I hate that she doesn't seem to care about anyone but herself. But I keep reminding myself I'm powerless. I'm getting better, then I seem to backslide.
The wife came over today and I was trying to post some questions before she showed up but the site was down. I'm trying to feed these kids, so I'll share about that later.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
And Wet, I answered your questions a page or two back.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
If you think about it, prayer -- and the Christian walk itself -- is all ABOUT powerlessness. It's about completely LETTING GO, and giving the outcome to God.
It's the faith expression of "dropping the rope," in a lot of ways!
