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Just remember, a firm boundary doesn't have to come attached to stern language. There's a reason we call it "loving detachment." It needs to be BOTH detached, AND loving.


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M57 W 57; D30 D28 S24 S20 GD7 GD2 GD1 GD5m GD1m
BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07

At the end of every hard-earned day, people gotta find some reason to believe. (Bruce Springsteen)
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I needed to hear that exact message this morning.

Thank you Starsky.


Me 47 - W 35
M 9 - T 10
2 Daughters - 7 & 9
Discovery of EA- 8/4/14
S - 8/5/15
D mentioned - 9/11/14
R & Piecing - 3/17/15
Regard one another as more important than yourselves.
- Philippians 2:3
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OK, so the last day or 2 has been way different with the wife calling and texting often almost like she is checking in. I don't think we talked this much daily when things were going well in our marriage. Today she did a lot of future talk. "We should do this", "this is going to be better for us down the road", that sort of thing. Not sure what to make of it and trying to remember to believe nothing she says and 50% of what I see. Trying hard to not get my hopes up about anything and just stick with the program.

I was reading back over the 37 rules and funny how the first week I blew all of them. Today, the first 10-15 are like no problem and the others are starting to become a little more natural.
I still am on an emotional roller coaster, sometimes daily, but it's getting better.

I am learning a ton from reading he other situations on here. So glad I found this place and have nothing but deep respect for the "vets" that have been here for many years. Thank you, guys for all you do!


Me 47 - W 35
M 9 - T 10
2 Daughters - 7 & 9
Discovery of EA- 8/4/14
S - 8/5/15
D mentioned - 9/11/14
R & Piecing - 3/17/15
Regard one another as more important than yourselves.
- Philippians 2:3
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That's a great update! I just found out that a friend of mine at work may have got a bomb drop recently. Can't want to share what I've learned here with him.

Happy Friday Everyone!

Last edited by FunDad; 10/10/14 04:18 AM.

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