Like I said np. Definately do NOT want to highjack anyone ...
just been stopping by too briefly - guess it shows. (am 'addicted' to here i think I drop by if if for a few mins! - with the first purge i actually felt lost!)
Thx Cadet (as always) pb.
pbetra ---- M: 15 yrs (in 2014) BD: 6/03/2014 Infidelity ('known' from July 2014) Denied PA Feb 2015 2 leave Mar 2015 (left early Summer). Some contact. Back briefly 2017 (after family death) Separated 2017
Starsky brought up some good points in his posting earlier about legal/permission issues with old posters who may or may not want their stuff stickied or reposted.
I have a number of threads/postings that I am reviewing right now and will determine whether I want them reposted and if they are still relevant, if they aren't relevant, I will not repost them and take up space. There is one, in particular, that I do not want reposted and it is the "Rip Van Winkles Awakening". That thread was created a few days after by BIL's death and would prefer that this one remain purged for life.
Cadet, I admire you for trying to create a new thread w/the old postings. I hope that the originators of the threads that you are attempting to recapture will come forward and provide you w/the links for some of the purged postings so that they can be reposted and hopefully stickied at the top of the forum.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Gosh Cadet- thank you so much for your time and scores in saving these invaluable resources. And Job for reposting so many of her insights and explanations. I know for me personally these 'lost' threads were lifelines to me in the darkest days and answers to my confusion and priceless in hue building of my knowledge and understanding.
Thanks Busting, when I first arrived here about 5 years ago, everyone told me to read the resource thread, I being a newbie, had no clue what that was and even when I found it most of the links were DEAD. SO once I did find it and learned a little more I thought I could give back that knowledge so that newbies feeling so lost and helpless could at least have something to DO!
Now on to this task at hand My comments will be in BLUE I have started a new homework thread that will work linked here New Homework Also notice an additional post I had a few below the one linked that fixes one link and also gives one for the reading
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The link for the resources http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1539436 ------------------------------------------- ** Subject: MLC Resources - All links in one thread 6 Stages of MLC by Hearts Blessings / There was a problem looking up this post in our database. [http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=97846&page=78&fpart=1]
All Sermans / There was a problem looking up this post in our database. [http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=96158&page=197#Post96158] ______________________________________________________________________________________ My feeling is that HB is still a member of this board and if she chooses to post HER threads here then I will be glad to link them if she doesnt then we should respect her privacy. ____________________________________________________________________________
Debate: MLC versus WAS /There was a problem looking up this post in our database. [http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=667030&page=155#Post667030]
Post from an MLCer / There was a problem looking up this post in our database. [http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1279265&page=0&fpart=1]
Great one liners - I /There was a problem looking up this post in our database. [http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=522019&page=63#Post522019]
Halloween fest in Fog Town Land / There was a problem looking up this post in our database. [http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=370261&page=24#Post370261]
Highly recommended reading Material - NEW http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2483893#Post2483893 ______________________________________________________________________________ In Tandem MLC and Depression / There was a problem looking up this post in our database. [http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=121351&page=221#Post121351]
In Tandem MLC and Depression 2 / There was a problem looking up this post in our database. [http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=287760&page=197#Post287760]
New Lighthouse thread http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2484619#Post2484619 ________________________________________________________________________________________ Midlife for Dummies / 'OK'(4 now!) [http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=960393&page=0&fpart=1] _______________________________________________________________________________________ I need to look for a link but I am sure one is around or I will re-post this.
MLC Discussion / My new info / There was a problem looking up this post in our database. [http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=752093&page=66#Post752093]
My thoughts on why they run away / There was a problem looking up this post in our database. [http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=67406&page=74#Post67406] (13) _________________________________________________________________________________________ New thread http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2484259#Post2484259 _________________________________________________________________________________________
Recipe for success /There was a problem looking up this post in our database.was this REPOSTED? [http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=566433&page=199#Post566433] (if re posted, will try to include new link ... or if someone has it?!!)
Rin Van Winkles awakening- removed per Job's request
Stages of MLC through the eyes of a visitor /There was a problem looking up this post in our database. [http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=87887&page=235#Post87887]
Stages of MLC through the eyes of a visitor II /There was a problem looking up this post in our database. [http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=90006&page=217#Post90006]
Thoughts of a MLC checklist /There was a problem looking up this post in o]ur database. [http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=674608&page=44#Post674608]
Yin and Yang / There was a problem looking up this post in our database. [http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Board=28&Number=849762&Searchpage=30&Main=25810&Words=Smurf_SMR&topic=0&Search=true#Post849762]
A question of dating / There was a problem looking up this post in our database. [http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1005543&page=13#Post1005543]
Attribution Theory / There was a problem looking up this post in our database. [http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=829888&page=24#Post829888]
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
This is now the most current version to this post if anyone has any comments, additions, subtractions, or edits, please post them on this thread.
Welcome to this board.
The first thing you should do is be sure to read the Divorce Remedy book by MWD, Divorce Busting is also an excellent book.
Sorry you are here but you will meet some wonderful people here and get some great advice.
You may be on moderation now, post in small frequent replies and stay on this thread until you reach 100 posts (for your thread, you can also post on other peoples threads to give support)
I have read a good deal of books on the subject and can give you some suggestions when you are ready.
Take the parts of this advice that you need and don't worry if I have repeated something that you have already done.
I will give you a bunch of homework assignments to read. However due to the board PURGE this POST is under reconstruction and we will be working on this as time goes by, this is the most current version, sorry for the confusion.
Now you have all the tools to read. Let us know how your doing and if you have any questions.
I suggest that you read the entire thread in the resources. You can also pick out some people and read their whole story.
Depression is the key to the whole thing and it is always present!
Believe none of what he says and 50% of what he does.
I would not ask him anything unless you can have no expectations. Sometimes asking them questions will be thought of as pressure. You do not want to do anything that can be thought of by your H as controlling or pressure.
Lets not worry about him. Lets work on you! Start your homework assignments. Something to DO while you are on moderation. GAL. Eat, sleep and take a deep breath. In general take care of your self first.
Detach the single most important thing to DO.
Your H has given you a gift THE GIFT OF TIME use it wisely
Hi Cadet, the Title of the thread is 'DB Purge coming'
People could be looking for helpful info etc. But I don't think they will be looking for it in 'DB Purge Coming' That's what I meant.
Love Delboy
Yes I understand, if I was a moderator or had the ability to change it on the main board - I would.
I really dont like starting new threads just because the theme of the thread changed. So I will keep posting here until I get to 100 posts. Then I may not even start a new one.
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I drop by if if for a few mins! - with the first purge i actually felt lost!) 
