I checked the online court records tonight and I see that my wife has filed for divorce. Thank God I've been coming to this site to help mentally prepare for what's ahead. I did not break down emotionally, which is good. Wow, I'm happy about that as I write this. I have put off seeing a lawyer, but now I'm forced to. This is so sad. 18 years of marriage, and several children threatened.
I called my best friend. He's such an encouragement to keep my head up and keep believing. I sent my wife a text simply stating that I'm so so sorry that we have gotten to the point and I know the road must have been very difficult for her. I did not beg or plead, just offered a sincere apology. No response.
So at church, we are playing songs about faith, praise, and surrender. How appropriate they are. That's where my hope is now.
Me:40 W:39 M:Dec 95 Split: Jul 14 W Filed: 9/16/14 Several Children (including adopted)
Sorry to hear that your wife filed. I pray that she becomes more open to reconciliation in the weeks and months ahead. Your prayers for my wife would also be appreciated.
M 16 T 17 W moved in w/ AP (OW) 5/14 ILYBNIL 5/14 A discovered 6/14 D papers served via USPS 8/14 Filed my response 9/14 D final 5/15...
I'm sorry to hear this. I'll be thinking of you today and lending some extra support.
BF:40 M:33 SD: 12 T: 8, never married, no kids together BD: 8/4, "I'm just done", "...too tired and burnt to try". PA confirmed 8/5 "It happened, but it's been over for almost a year".
I'm sorry to hear about your wife filing, prayers out to you!
ME: 29 / W: 29 M: 10 (11 in March 2015) BD (ILYBNILWY): 07/26/14 S:12 / S: 7 "We need to separate" : 08/31/14 Wants to see others: 10/11/14 Separation looming
Don't give up hope. Plenty of couples remarry after divorce.
M: 15 years BD: 6/25/14 EA/PA: starts 5/14/14 11/30/14 - A ends 5/15/15 - D is finalized. 11/28/15 - Start of new LTR with a wonderful woman (and still going strong)!
I've been there, Mine has had the paperwork set to go atleast 3 times , we went to a mediation session once, sounds like you are a man of faith .... my advise ... hold on to that, hold onto God like a scared 3 year od boy holds onto his fathers leg. I was not what I consider religous before all this happened, but now I refuse to miss/skip out on church and I shudder at where I would be without Him in my life.
Someone told me, there comes a time you can only do so much, you must get on both knees, pray, and just give it up Him, pray for him to soften her heart, to work on her, then continue to DB, GAL, 180 ... its never to late.
