Ain't it funny. On Friday, told W I was going out today for a while (2-7). "I don't care what you do"
Today: "Who are you going to see? When are you leaving? It's 1:00. you don't want to be late."
Gotta laugh.
I have a thread full of WAW questions. Surely someone here can explain why they ask so many damn questions? Shakspr, just be vague when she asks you for details. Always smile and act like you had or will have fun in your GAL's. Know that others have been exactly where you are right now...almost like watching a movie over and over. Weird stuff. However, I have found this to be true.."believe NONE of what you see and only HALF of what you hear from WAW"
Me43/WAW43..M 4y..S1 11/S2 4..Bomb2/2014..Dfile 5/2014..Settlement signed 8/20/14..D final 8/29/14 I moved out 10/10/14..WAW got D she wanted. I wanted R. No waiting,just no boundaries in her way.
Thanks for chiming in Ahoy and Newb3. Yeah, it's weird - she's divorcing me without giving any concrete reasons. Yet she makes snide comments like "Well, you seem to be having fun with all your FRIENDS." (Tone was important on that one.) I'm just too verbal - I have to respond. But I don't get angry anymore. Just "you don't expect me to sit around here and mope, do you?"
It's a Topsy-Turvy world these days.
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20
Yet she makes snide comments like "Well, you seem to be having fun with all your FRIENDS." (Tone was important on that one.) I'm just too verbal - I have to respond. But I don't get angry anymore. Just "you don't expect me to sit around here and mope, do you?"
Mr. Gritty keeps making comments about my GALing (when he finds out about it) like, "Nobody is having me to dinner!" Today he told me our S told him I was doing watersports. He said, "I never got to do watersports!" Like it's totally unfair.
It sounds like she is noticing the changes in you and "the upper hand" has shifted a bit.
Shakespr, my sitch has changed for the better. I feel bad for my friends still in the trenches, and very concerned that I may be in the trenches with you all yet again. You never know what will happen. I'm trying to be cautious, still trying to detach.
I'm glad you're doing better, a little bit every day. I know it's helping your sitch even though that W of yours is a fool.
M:54, H:55 T:33, M:27 12/13 BD: EA 01/14 BD: PA, H leaves 03/14 H & OW break up 05/14 H says he will file for D 08/14 H initiates D 09/14 H wants to R 12/14 Still bungling our way through R
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Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20
Any advice when you feel like you are in neutral? I mean, I am doing the GAL stuff, 180s (such as fitness, calm, more child involvement) and TRYING to stick to Sandi's 37 rules blueprint.
I just feel so blah (which, admittedly, is better than blue.)
In the military, we called it "marking time" which is fancy talk for marching in place.
I suppose the answer is patience. And using the gift of time in productive ways. And finding another step outside my comfort zone.
My work - my actual high-paying job - is being affected, and I know it. Suppose I better take my own advice, then:
2 Timothy 2:15 (NIV) Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth.
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20
I know about being in neutral - I tend to want to do something destructive (and would highly advise against that).
More Metallica & More cowbell. I do try to keep a sense of humor too. Sometimes it helps to lighten things up. It may be fake, but it helps for a while.
I really know about every part of our lives being affected too.
I am still telling myself to recover - refocus on work - pick up the pieces and do what's important for myself and kids right now. But I keep falling into the same rut and the people that I let down at work pile onto my worry list. Which subtracts from my PMA, which makes me seem less like a man she would be crazy to leave. and that cycle continues.
I know to stop that snowball, force the PMA, force the productivity - but it is almost overwhelming.
Me-45 W-44 S21, S18, D15 T-27, M-21 BD Jan 2014 PA revealed March 2014 In-house separation - April 2015 I filed - Aug 2015 She moved out Oct 2015
