Not much progress

[Elsa]

My anniversary was the week after BD. I did not get my WAH a card or gift, although the anniversary was acknowledged in other ways (H wished me happy anniversary in the morning, and we met later in the evening to reminisce).

I'm not 100% caught up on your sitch, but I wouldn't have acknowledged the anniversary any way if my WAH hadn't initiated, especially if an OW were involved. Too much pursuit, in my opinion.

[bdub]

Go simple. Maybe a card or a little letter stating nothing sappy. Your wedding day did happen, and you ended up with some good memories from it.
My BD was 6 days before our 15th anniversary. I bought a card and wrote in it " Happy 15th. Thank you for 15 years and 2 wonderful boys" and signed my name. She kept the card, something she rarely does. We went out to dinner as a family and created a few good memories.

[dawgy]

Thx for the input guys . Im goin with bdub s plan sounds simple and not persuing , just acknowledging

[u-turn]

Dawgy-I would agree with this too. Don't go over the top, keep it simple, but acknowledge it with something maybe from the kids.

That will help remind you too that life is not all bad - Keep the kids as your focus.

[FunDad]

Happy Anniversary! Have zero expectations from her. I turned 40 the week after my W moved out. Before she moved, I was hoping for some type of attention or affection for her, at least on my 40th. None. Luckily my work friends and my family helped me through it. My wish was a "Get out of MLC free card" for my W. ;-)

[PeterV2]

Happy Anniversary dawgy. I agree a simple understated card is appropriate. You could even add, with all my love forever, if you dare. But don't harp on it. Actually best just to leave it for her - don't even present it personally. If she takes a lead and wants to go to dinner together do it but stay cool and detached. Let her set the pace and tone. As long as she doesn't start spewing. If she does and you need to take an occasional time out do so.
What are her LLs?

[dawgy]

i bought Roses and put a card on it . Thank you for the 27 years together and our two beautiful sons . love Dawgy . I put it on the kitchen counter last night after she went to bed and I left extra early this morning before she got up . I will see what happens when I get home to see if we as a family can go out for dinner > I ll have to see the mood and body language . The reason i got the roses is because ive done that for 20 years and it felt terrible not to do it . Im very emotional today . having a hard time not breaking down and crying . I love her so much and it all seems ruined forever . Dam....

[bdub]

stay strong dawgy. We are here for you. What you feel today is not what you will feel tomorrow.

[Eatsma]

Happy anniversary Dawgy.

Everything static in my neck of the woods. Have a birthday and anniversary coming up myself. Not feeling festive, and don't want to acknowledge either.

[dawgy]

So , we ve been sleeping separate for 3 weeks now . Its very tough on me . She s still with us but only because she doesnt want the secret out , so it seems . Shes very cold to me but every once in a while she lets her guard down and I see my girl . It hurts so much to see her then she vanishes back to the alien ive come to know .
I believe shes still seeing OM but im not positive . If I were a betting man I would bet my life on it , I just have that feeling . I want to destroy this man but it doesnt seem possible without making my sitch much worse .Although I seem to be at a breaking point where I feel Im willing to let go of her and get my revenge . I know revenge is not supposed to help but i feel a great desire to get it .

I see no progress and my sitch is 10 months old . Ive known for 7 months . If someone had told me 7 months ago id be in this situation , I would have laughed .DBing is hard , very hard but I keep telling myself D is much harder . I dont know . D seems inevitable when i start analyzing . Maybe I just need to detach even more , i dont know , Im just beside myself today Dawgy