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claire7 #2488501 09/15/14 02:10 AM
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Well, she did pray before she did that. Lol.

We went to Kennedy Soace Center this summer and heard lots and lots of jokes about things in that movie. The best thing about it was the good, old-fashioned, straightforward story-telling of a woman who went to very great lengths to run away from her problems, only to find she'd brought them with her. And then was forced to cope with them under crisis conditions.

...sound familiar?


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Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15

She believed she could, so she did.
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Question for the crowd: does the spouse that only a fool would leave tell her WAH that their daughter often asks where he is, or that she said the other day, "I want daddy to stay here with me. I want him to stay in our house"?

Do I (and how do I) mention these things in my detached, fabulous DB way?????? I know what to say to my D3, but I don't know whether I should tell him she said these things.
Maybe that is a question for my coach or IC.


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claire7 #2488592 09/15/14 01:36 PM
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Claire, I'm not a mum so am probably out of my league here. For what it's worth, I think there is a danger in letting this to H - as he may perceive it as you trying to make him feel guilty. Does your D see her dad? If so, she may well be saying this to him anyway.


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claire,

ganb8te is right. You do not say anything to your H about it because he will perceive it as guilting. My S5 is always making comments about things related to where is mommy or when will I come stay with him at mommys or when will mommy come stay with him at my place. All you can do is answer the best you can to your kids.

If your D is asking you these things, odds are she is probably asking the same to your H.

Good luck!


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W: 32
Married 7 years together 8.5
S1: 7 S2:7
Bomb #1: 09-16-13
Recon #1: 11/13
A discovered 04-03-2014
W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me
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Claire,

Your h knows your D wants him home. Don't say a thing. He will view it as guilting and shaming and won't change his behavior. Just my 2cents.



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Do a gut/motive check "What am I hoping to get by sharing this information?"

And be brutally honest.


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M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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Claire, I have the same inclinations but have kept them in check -- mainly because I agree with Georgiabelle that he will think I'm guilt-tripping him and will blame me, but ALSO because I ask myself the following question:
"Do I really want him to return just for my daughter's sake? And if he does return, do I really expect him to stay once she heads off for college, if he's not in the marriage for the right reasons."

Better to keep the information to yourself.
I encourage my daughter to open up to her dad about her feelings if she wants to, but it's between the two of them to work that out.


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So over it!
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Ok, the feedback is clear! (That's what I thought anyway).. labug, I think the only way it might ever come up even a bit is during a discussion of how D3 is handling things.

But I am not touching that with a 10 foot pole right now.


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Soooo,

Went to IC... set a goal of starting to work on getting back in shape... then proceeded to eat a giant brownie for dinner.

Hello, my name is Claire.  I clearly have a lot of feelings and just ate them all.

They tasted quite delicious.

We all have our vices...


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Eating chocolate chips myself. smile


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She believed she could, so she did.
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