Thanks everyone I was detaching and getting somewhere after she had left for 3 weeks but then the W was insistent that she come home for a few weeks to see how she felt . And that missing the kids was killing her with me being so in love with her and not ever wanting the kids to think I hadn't tried everything I agreed . I knew it was to early and in talking to her we both agreed on that . I've started reconnecting with old friends and started going out socialising but the funny thing is she sees it as a good thing and me moving on . She has noticed all my 180s and even commented on the 2 weeks that she was in the house that it has never been so tidy no clutter or mess anywhere something that she was very critical of with me that I would just sit there watching TV while she did the housework . But she says it's to little to late . It was something she said to my D12 when she left " give it a few weeks and the house will be such a mess that you will all be begging me to come home " How wrong was she me and the kids have become a very efficient team .
Me 40 W 37 Together 22 years S18 D12 WaW 12/08/14 after affair exposed , suspected for several months W returned home for 2 weeks to see if can handle family life After the 2 weeks she has left .
Issues with me and my son saying I've never loved him . To be honest I never used to interact with my son when she was there because it just caused issues but when she wasn't there we were good . He is 18 years old.
Not about me but issues between son and daughter, son being horrid to daughter when she absolutely loves him .
She hates the house and feels we haven't done any work to it since we first moved in
She doesn't have any feelings for me anymore
I would always try and blame someone if something got broke etc
That she never wanted for anything that I would just buy her things
That we never had any her and me time like going out for meals etc . My daughter is very into singing dancing and acting and has lessons classes every day of the week which didn't help this at all . But unfortunately a lot of this has stopped due to her leaving and my daughter is heart broken
She felt all she ever did was the house work
She wants to be single and relive her youth got out clubbing partying etc meeting guys etc
Talks about getting a tattoo on her back of butterfly's and stars .
Think that's about it
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Me 40 W 37 Together 22 years S18 D12 WaW 12/08/14 after affair exposed , suspected for several months W returned home for 2 weeks to see if can handle family life After the 2 weeks she has left .
Right so I went to work last night and left W with daughter under the impression she is going to tell her she is leaving today and she hasn't said anything to her at all about leaving today . Seems she can't even tell her own daughter
Me 40 W 37 Together 22 years S18 D12 WaW 12/08/14 after affair exposed , suspected for several months W returned home for 2 weeks to see if can handle family life After the 2 weeks she has left .
Have you read DB or DR yet? You can't base everything off on what you see on this Forum. Can you give us more detail on your M? The more information you can give and be impartial, the better.
Be honest.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Have you read DB or DR yet? You can't base everything off on what you see on this Forum. Can you give us more detail on your M? The more information you can give and be impartial, the better.
Be honest.
For the last few years we have both drifted appart due to both of us being so busy with work and running our daughter around. She got a new job and this made her realise how much she was missing in life , she made new friends and started going out drinking and partying with them and she enjoyed the new life style and then started thinking about being single again . Few months ago one of her work colleagues introduced her to the man she has been having an A with and that's when the wheels really fell of . Not sure it matters but this friend at work has had loads of affairs at work and there own life is a real mess also.
So I find myself waiting for her to leave today with no hope
Me 40 W 37 Together 22 years S18 D12 WaW 12/08/14 after affair exposed , suspected for several months W returned home for 2 weeks to see if can handle family life After the 2 weeks she has left .
Update Dropped the W at her mums with all she owns . Tried and was successful at not getting upset .
Just before she left I told her the door would always be open if she ever wanted to return home . Was that a mistake ?
Atleast it will be easier to detach when she isn't in the house something that was going ok until she returned 2 weeks ago for her trial .
Me 40 W 37 Together 22 years S18 D12 WaW 12/08/14 after affair exposed , suspected for several months W returned home for 2 weeks to see if can handle family life After the 2 weeks she has left .
Hang in there. Congrats at keeping your cool when dropping her off, it must have been a struggle, so consider that a hard-fought win.
I'm about to move out, myself (I'm not re-signing the lease for the apartment we rent) and I'm wondering if it will be easier to detach when I don't have him in my space (he's hardly ever home, but my stomach gets in knots just before I know he's due in for the evening)....so good luck with finding that peace again!
BF:40 M:33 SD: 12 T: 8, never married, no kids together BD: 8/4, "I'm just done", "...too tired and burnt to try". PA confirmed 8/5 "It happened, but it's been over for almost a year".
Me 40 W 37 Together 22 years S18 D12 WaW 12/08/14 after affair exposed , suspected for several months W returned home for 2 weeks to see if can handle family life After the 2 weeks she has left .
South, I don't think it's a mistake to tell her the door is open. You're making the road smooth for her in case she decides to return. But now back away from her and focus on yourself and GAL -- don't keep reiterating that the road is home -- you've already told her.
It must be disappointing to have her leave after two weeks at home (I'm guessing you were hopeful when she first moved back).
Hang in there.
M: 43 H: 39 D: 14 Married 15 Together 16 BD: 6/2014 S: 8/2014 OW revealed 10/2014 Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress So over it!
