Sounds like a positive night for you igit. I would caution reading too much into what your W may or may not have been thinking. If for no other reason it might subconsciously alter your actions/mood unjustly.
Keep at what you are doing. You seem to be on the right road doing the best you can given the circumstances.
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
Pilot, thanks, I know what you mean, I was just being me at school . Even had a funny moment wife cracked up. Had to be there but all in good fun with teacher. Wife asked me to get kids to bed. She was not super friendly but that's the way she has been lately. I am going to get out of town early this afternoon so I don't need to see her. I Just keep thinking to myself , does she have it in her to try and make M work. She would have to really make significant change from where she is now. Not sure she has it in her rt now
M 54 W 48 T 19 M 17 D 12 Twin S 6 Twin S 6 Ilybnilwy 1/26/14 A discovered 2/3/14 D filed 7/25/14 Sumons served 8/14/14
Pilot, my plan is to continue to be best dad, <best roommate> best me I can be. I have to show my wife what she will be missing. its so hard to bite my tongue! Yesterday we had this school function at 7. I was at home 530ish W was with kids somewhere! Had no clue where they were! I was getting frustrated! I called D12 at 630 and told her I was on way to school. W then texted me and said to wait for her! I started thinking to myself -< be nice, be cool, don't be angry,> I realize the only way for her to open up to me is show no anger! If she has nothing to be angry with me about it cant hurt! Her brother thinks I should talk to kids teachers and let them no what is going on, he thinks its important for teachers to understand what kids are dealing with! Anyway I have been thinking about that one and not sure what to do!
M 54 W 48 T 19 M 17 D 12 Twin S 6 Twin S 6 Ilybnilwy 1/26/14 A discovered 2/3/14 D filed 7/25/14 Sumons served 8/14/14
I told my kids teachers my W and I were separated. I think it is important for them to know. For one, it will explain why sometimes the my kids may not have something they need (being left at other parents house etc). I had to drive up to my kids schools on 3 separate days this week to drop stuff off, and I do not have them this week. Also it helps the teachers keep an eye out for behavior issues, good and bad. For example, my 5 year old is constantly drawing pictures of daddy, mommy, him, and his little brother in a row all holding hands. Breaks my heart to see it, but that is what he keeps drawing. So for simply behavior and logistical reasons, the teachers are better off knowing.
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
Pilot, well done, good advice. I don't know if WAW knows the impact this has on kids. Lifetime is how long it impacts them. I sent w a text that I am heading out be back tommorow night. She called but no message. I just let it go. Give her some of her own medicine
M 54 W 48 T 19 M 17 D 12 Twin S 6 Twin S 6 Ilybnilwy 1/26/14 A discovered 2/3/14 D filed 7/25/14 Sumons served 8/14/14
My WAW says that D doesn't have any impact on children; since she is a child from a failed marriage, I have a hard time believing that she really believes that.
But we have to believe none of what we hear and less than half of what we see, right?
Either she is just saying that to try and hurt me in which case I just need to continue growing tougher skin, or she really believes that in which case I am better off being rid of her.
Me37, W30, S7 Married 10yrs 05/11/04 ILYBINILWY 22/09/13 Disc. OM1 26/09/13 Disc. STD from OM2 03/02/14 Affair Confession 21/06/14
W and I share same apartment (for a few more days). W isn't pushing for D.
Sometime in future they will see the damage that they have caused. Like a tornado they destroy anything in there path. Only way for LBS to survive is detach and remove oneself from being destroyed by tornado. Some WAW s will realize there unhappiness is not because of spouse but there own low self esteem, unless resolved childhood issues. It really hurts to see someone you love do this to themselves and family. I just hope they find some hapiness from within.
M 54 W 48 T 19 M 17 D 12 Twin S 6 Twin S 6 Ilybnilwy 1/26/14 A discovered 2/3/14 D filed 7/25/14 Sumons served 8/14/14
My wife is is taking twin boys to her new church today. What a great role model. Have an A, leave your church of 9 yrs because you don't like people there any more. Then show kids it's ok to change churches especially before a D.
M 54 W 48 T 19 M 17 D 12 Twin S 6 Twin S 6 Ilybnilwy 1/26/14 A discovered 2/3/14 D filed 7/25/14 Sumons served 8/14/14
