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vossy #2483370 08/30/14 03:46 PM
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Life is so great. I love how it drops people or situations in our path that allow us to see ourselves more clearly.

I hope your brother can find it in him to trust his W.


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss
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My H has been text chatting with me all afternoon and it's weird.

In my last coaching session Chuck said H is going to have to earn me back. I agree but don't know what that means or what H is doing.


Me42, H40
D12, S8, S7
A revealed: 7/13
Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15

She believed she could, so she did.
Maybell #2483420 08/30/14 08:45 PM
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After my miserable day (Is that wallowing? Damn! I think it may be.), it's really nice to read that your situation is getting better Maybell.


M: 57 / EW: 52
T: 21, M: 8
S: 18, S: 15
Bomb: 1 Jun 14
EA Aug 2014 I think
PA Feb 2015 possibly sooner
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Thank you, Old Dog.


Me42, H40
D12, S8, S7
A revealed: 7/13
Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15

She believed she could, so she did.
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Feeling antsy, with a crazy urge to make something happen, not necessarily related to H. Just something. I'm trying to use the energy to get my house in order, and maybe I'll throw a small BBQ or go for a run this afternoon, but it feels like not enough.

Does anyone else get like this? What do you do about it?


Me42, H40
D12, S8, S7
A revealed: 7/13
Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15

She believed she could, so she did.
Maybell #2483601 08/31/14 02:21 PM
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I do, Maybell. I clean out closets or jump rope to get some of that energy channeled.

Hope you have a great time whatever you decide to do!



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BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. )
Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style
D final 9-9-14
"Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
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Antsiness is partly related to H. But I do think I'd be antsy if he were here too. So maybe it's him, and being impatient; and spending yesterday alone recharging so now I'm ready for my plans to get in motion; wanting my house to be like I want it already, without me having to AGAIN do all the work I've already done on seven other houses; wanting to HAVE a job rather than be looking for a job; and the front edge of fall, which always makes me restless.

I know my situation has a lot of positives. I know there is less for people to say when things start moving in a good direction. But it's also hard to be so far from the goal. I'm greedy and impatient. We could come back together today and be happier than many couples who haven't split up. So why can't we yet?


Me42, H40
D12, S8, S7
A revealed: 7/13
Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15

She believed she could, so she did.
Maybell #2483623 08/31/14 03:53 PM
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I think I feel what you are saying Maybell. but for me, it is more about having a 'set' direction for my life. Right now everything is up in the air. Will I be D? Will I stay M? Where will I be living 1 year from now? Where will the kids be, and who with? And a million other things which just seem to be on hold until I get this whole M figured out. I want movement, one direction or another. Preferably one, but movement allows you to plan for what is ahead. I too am very impatient at times.


Me: 42
W: 32
Married 7 years together 8.5
S1: 7 S2:7
Bomb #1: 09-16-13
Recon #1: 11/13
A discovered 04-03-2014
W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me
I filed D 12-02-2014
S 05-31-14
Divorced 5-19-16
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pilot -
Just chiming in. I feel this every day and said it over and over.

I find myself putting all of the house projects on hold indefinitely because I just don't know enough - too many questions about the future.

I just look for a direction. I can make decisions and plans if there was just movement.


Me-45 W-44
S21, S18, D15
T-27, M-21
BD Jan 2014
PA revealed March 2014
In-house separation - April 2015
I filed - Aug 2015
She moved out Oct 2015
u-turn #2483630 08/31/14 04:19 PM
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So make something happen.


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss
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