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Time for a new thread, my old one is almost full.

Here it is: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2474878#Post2474878

Here is my original: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2474855&page=1

Things are gradually shifting for the better. We're not to piecing yet, but we're friendly, we're parenting together, and she doesn't mention divorce or moving out anymore. So that's a plus.

Damage control is mostly done, now I'm trying to get the spark back.

I know the road will be rocky, but I'm standing tall.


Me: 34 W:33
T: 10 M: 6
S: 6 D: 5
BD: 5/14
Still together(ish)
Not giving up: 7/14
D talk has slowed, a lot.
Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms.
Slow and Steady wins the race.
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And on that note, she was a total crab tonight. To be fair, I think she was just exhausted from the week. On the good side, as grumpy as she was, there wasn't really D talk.

Also, I didn't let it get me down. I'm getting stronger.


Me: 34 W:33
T: 10 M: 6
S: 6 D: 5
BD: 5/14
Still together(ish)
Not giving up: 7/14
D talk has slowed, a lot.
Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms.
Slow and Steady wins the race.
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Today sucked.

Weddings are extremely depressing.

And the fact that's she's a pissy that took the kids. She hates my faugit bmily. Of course this wedding involves my whole family.


Me: 34 W:33
T: 10 M: 6
S: 6 D: 5
BD: 5/14
Still together(ish)
Not giving up: 7/14
D talk has slowed, a lot.
Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms.
Slow and Steady wins the race.
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What??


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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Wow. Sorry about the really bad typing. I was super tired.

I meant that she was pissy that I took the kids to the wedding. She hates my family and it was a family wedding, so she wasn't being really happy about that.

Aside from that I was grumbling about how sad being at a wedding made me.


Me: 34 W:33
T: 10 M: 6
S: 6 D: 5
BD: 5/14
Still together(ish)
Not giving up: 7/14
D talk has slowed, a lot.
Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms.
Slow and Steady wins the race.
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I have to admit i have little patience for people who are immature. You took your kids to a family wedding and your wife is pissy because she doesn't like your family? Could that BE more immature? It's a FAMILY wedding. Get a grip, woman.

On the other hand, I understand how a wedding can be an un-fun experience for you (or any of us in our situations). I'm convinced the bar is usually for those with struggling marriages. smile


M: 37 H: 36
M: 13 T: 18
D: 7
Bomb: 6/30/14
Separation: 8/11/14

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Yes, the bar woulda been great...save for the 3 and 5 year-old I was responsible for. 3 drinks in 3 1/2 hours. Not getting the job done. Sigh.


Me: 34 W:33
T: 10 M: 6
S: 6 D: 5
BD: 5/14
Still together(ish)
Not giving up: 7/14
D talk has slowed, a lot.
Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms.
Slow and Steady wins the race.
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I feel ya. But it's times like those that I say, "I'm going to make it so my kids go home and say, 'we had SO much fun with daddy at that wedding'".


When the kids have a great time, mommy always hears about it and wishes she were part of it...


M: 37 H: 36
M: 13 T: 18
D: 7
Bomb: 6/30/14
Separation: 8/11/14

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Oh yeah, they had fun. Not as much w/ me, but they had fun. I did dance w/ my daughter tho. It's the only dancing I did. I love dancing w/ her.


Me: 34 W:33
T: 10 M: 6
S: 6 D: 5
BD: 5/14
Still together(ish)
Not giving up: 7/14
D talk has slowed, a lot.
Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms.
Slow and Steady wins the race.
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Things have been good. Work started. I've been keeping up w/ working out.

We met to drop off my son on his first day of Kindergarten. I brought her a bouquet of roses as a "happy first day of kindergarten" present for my W. They were very well received.

We've been gradually acting more like we're married again. I certainly feel like I have my friend back. There hasn't been any affection or definitive R talk, so I'm nowhere near declaring us to be "piecing" yet.

Being patient and trying to not scare her off.


Me: 34 W:33
T: 10 M: 6
S: 6 D: 5
BD: 5/14
Still together(ish)
Not giving up: 7/14
D talk has slowed, a lot.
Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms.
Slow and Steady wins the race.
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