Well, I will start this post with some background. MY wife and I have been married for 11 years. She was 18 and I was 21 when we got married. . . .
When we met, we both believed that we have found the one. Everything moved so fast. We met in January 2003, she was pregnant in March, and we Married in July 2003.
Did you have any serious relationships before your wife?
Thank you again, I appreciate all of the sound advice. I was in 2 serious relationships prior to her. Am I comfortable being by myself, yes, by myself with these thoughts, no. I have moved in with a great friend (weird, he is my best friend and he actually married someone she went to high school with). They are tremendously positive people, and she has even tried to find out where my W is at. Again, I made mistakes in my marriage, but, I do love this woman.
I miss my daughters the most. There is no set visitation schedule. She lets me come and see them/take them whenever I want. When she is not in this mind state, she really is an amazing wife, it just took me a while to get my act together.
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GOT IT! No more sleeping with her. Even though I have needs, I will not go to her for them. Should I start seeing other people or just focus only on myself. The last time we separated, I actually took the kids and moved out, she was in that bad of a spot emotionally.
All I know, is that if we can somehow get this figured out, and R, I will never do another thing to let this woman go.
So, what should I refer to this as, that she is a WS or WAS?
M-32 W-29 3D-12, 10, 8 Bomb Dropped 28 Jul 2014 She started dating 4 Aug 2014
I must add that I am in the military and I deploy for 6 months in November, with 1 month of gone time between now and then, I really do not have much time, I feel like if I leave and its not resolved, it is over.
M-32 W-29 3D-12, 10, 8 Bomb Dropped 28 Jul 2014 She started dating 4 Aug 2014
She took off her wedding rings. I can't find it in my heart to take mine off. I mean, we are still married. Should I take mine off?
That's an intensely personal decision, L.H. It's up to you. If you're still standing for your marriage, then you should probably keep them on. The only consensus around here is that no matter WHAT you do, DON'T do it to get any sort of "reaction" out of her -- do it because it feels authentic to YOU.
Should I start seeing other people or just focus only on myself.
Seeing other people will only complicate things and distract you from working on you. Your time will be best spent focusing on yourself -- not your W, not another W, but you and your D.
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She took off her wedding rings. I can't find it in my heart to take mine off. I mean, we are still married. Should I take mine off?
Personal decision. Don't take them off in an attempt to spite her. If you are done and advertising to the world that you are not married, then take them off. If you are trying to save your M, then you still consider yourself married, right? Leave them on.
