H and I are usually pretty reciprocal with money, if u need he'll give and vice versa, but I object to early morning text messages wwhile he's aaway with ow and gambling to boot. He rang before, I let it ring out, he didn't leave a message...oh well no idea when the warney thing occurred it was a while but still, that's the kind of trash I've been replaced with...it's almost laughable. The boys and I are having a great day today, wwe've been out of town, done some shopping, now to clean the house and get ready for our housewarming party tonight!
I still wouldn't give him money now, what's been applying in the r does not apply now. If he's spending at the casino and he's out of money he may not have any till next pay.
Imho gambling is not a need, food is.
I think shaney w, would be classified as the town bike, as everyone has had a ride.
Don't forget the std checks for you. Community health can help with free ones, or there is a clinic I think in Canberra.
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M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
Hey gg, did the sad test a month ago, all clear thank the Lord!! had a great hhousewarming party, the kids had a ball, got to talk to people I haven't Connected with for a while. had to take one of the twins to the hospital just before everyone arrived as he cut his toe open? very gross but I coped, there a 180 right there, would normally ring h to tell him/manipulate and create a drama. I actually missed his call when he rand to say goodnight to the boys, as we were at the hospital so I sent him a text instead of ringing back just stated the facts and that I gave the boys a hug and kiss from him (another 180!) he responded/ asked if twinnie was ok, I replied again with the facts and that I had it covered and that we would see him when he gets back to town tomorrow. Not sure what to do about the money sitch, I'll have sleep on it, but there will be no money given for known gambling that is for sure. I have a small dilemma, a very nice person has asked me to lunch tomorrow, and though I would like to say yes, I know that I am not interested in being with anyone other than my h, I would like to have lunch and become friends...nothing more, do you tell the person that you are only interested in being friends or do you just not go?
Hey gg, did the sad test a month ago, all clear thank the Lord!! had a great hhousewarming party, the kids had a ball, got to talk to people I haven't Connected with for a while. had to take one of the twins to the hospital just before everyone arrived as he cut his toe open? very gross but I coped, there a 180 right there, would normally ring h to tell him/manipulate and create a drama. I actually missed his call when he rand to say goodnight to the boys, as we were at the hospital so I sent him a text instead of ringing back just stated the facts and that I gave the boys a hug and kiss from him (another 180!) he responded/ asked if twinnie was ok, I replied again with the facts and that I had it covered and that we would see him when he gets back to town tomorrow. Not sure what to do about the money sitch, I'll have sleep on it, but there will be no money given for known gambling that is for sure. I have a small dilemma, a very nice person has asked me to lunch tomorrow, and though I would like to say yes, I know that I am not interested in being with anyone other than my h, I would like to have lunch and become friends...nothing more, do you tell the person that you are only interested in being friends or do you just not go?
I guess if you go or not depend on your game on the longer term. What are your goals?
Lunch per say isn't a situation in which you could get cornered like a date at night, but it could lead to expectations. Is this a new person or friend who's known you as a couple?
I'm a longer way down the track, and h is not showing any signs of r. He's acting like I'm Jack the Ripper. His family treated my like a stranger they didn't know and his aunt could even look me in the eye. My life in some form needs to move on and is in a way.
I flip and I flop, but most of the time, I'm happy being on my own. I'm not a huge party person, and like my own time and hobbies.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
Mmm I know what you mean by expectations, no this person doesn't know h and I as a couple, I met them independently recently, he is also recently s, so for me at least, it is me meeting new people of the opposite sex to form a friendship with. I think a lunch is ok, as it doesn't have the same connotations as something g at night, I agree there. sad that your h is treating you like that, and his family sound like a pack of vipers. I too am beginning to enjoy being me again, I was thinking about when I first met h, I was messy in my head but I had balls! I was confident and I knew what I wanted. I think somewhere along the line I began to to put h on a pedistool, that he could do no wrong and that he would make everything ok, instead of standing on my own two feet. I get now, I will be ok, i do love my h, but I will be ok no matter what happens. I really want what is best for him and me, and our boys . having said all that, let's see how I go when I have to drop the boys off to him this afternoon.....
If lunch date is separated he might just need support, an ear who's walking that path. Althought he could be needy and thinking he should move on, hence it " might" get ugly.
If he has kids it could work out as play dates for kids and someone to share the child load if you need a sitter if h let's you down.
I guess it's just not knowing, the person and how sticky it could get. I'm still holding onto my lighter fluid and zippo! (For me, I'm terrified of op expectations)
As for my il family, I'm pretty sure his script it the same one he gave from his first wife. All his lines he used with her he used for me and on me.
Which was she left for a much younger man she had a crush on and she drank far too much so thus had a drinking problem. All her fault his was a 100%
I don't drink and found lots of evidence h was drinking far more than I saw. he would have one drink most nights with me, but I found missing grog, s16 mentioned Friday h would have at least 2 drinks before I got home. He constantly accused me of a!
I did not drink nor have too many male friends, nor did I go anywhere without him knowing where I was. H often was seen in places I had no idea he was going.
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M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
Oh gg, sounds so messy, obviously your h hasn't learnt from the first time around, and seem to be spewing the vitriol again is he still with the ow? well lunch date man doesn't live hhere so that's great! he does have one kid as far as I know, at least the sun is shining and we can sit outside and look at the lake, yeas it is the unknown quantity that worries me, I've been with two people in the last 20 years, holy hell.....
Snap! Met h 1 had 21st with him, then about 10 months after that ended I met h2!
That spans over 22 years!
As far as I know. Fb status says so, he gave her a car, he spent $hite loads on.
Let the controlling begin. Rolls eyes.
3 weeks till mediation. Sigh.
Yeah, it was topic of yesterday with bestie and her hubby. He hasn't learnt squat and is so inflexible he is even using the same damn script. Even tho it may have been partially true in w1 case she did drink quiet a lot, she had no self value dated a married man. It's not true in my case even remotely.
Last edited by Ggrass; 08/10/1401:25 AM.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
So went on the lunch 'date' seemed like a really nice guy, and zero zip zilch nana attraction on my behalf, I was honest from the get go, that I am only looking to meet new people, we got along well, and I could see him becoming a friend. what it did do I'd solidify how I feel about my h. I love him, that's it, and I'll take each day as it comes, no expectations.
