LOL. Well, think of it this way, it's true that everyone carries baggage. As long as your own baggage and the person you love's baggage doesn't clash then you just may have found the person to be with!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Thanks BA, I just find it hard to put aside the crappy things that people tend to do to you in the online cesspool. I try to be honest and kind to the people I deal with in the online world...it just seems like the right thing to do! But hey, I'm a social worker you think I'd be rather oblivious to people and their BS by now lol. Anyway, I'm just a bit disappointed, I'll bounce back! Btw, this last lady turned out to be a social worker in the community mental health field...which is what I do! I had no idea when I approached her, she listed her occupation as "employed"...she liked photography and wrote some nice stuff about honesty and being upfront in the dating process! I have a theory that the stuff people emphasize in their profile are often the things they have the most difficulty keeping to themselves. Just a hunch.
Well, I followed up with the lady last night. My male co-workers thought it would be appropriate...but I didn't use the language they were suggesting. I just felt that for my own self respect, it was right to let her know that I felt somewhat disrespected...so I did so in a nice way. I wrote "Hi xxxxx, I'm sorry that you have chosen not to respond to my invitation. I would have appreciated a yes, no, maybe or not if you were the last man on earth (OK, not that one!) but, c'est la vie. All the best to you" To my surprise she responded at 12:30 a.m. "Whatis, I've been away most of the week and August is a really busy month 'cuz I'm moving, but we'll see what we can do, OK? ...and thanks for the invite " I responded "I'm glad to see you haven't closed my case file lol. I can empathize with the stress of moving, you wonder "where did all this stuff come from and what am I going to do with it!" August is pretty clear for me as many of my activities close down for the summer. So let's keep in touch and if we can find time for coffee, great conversation...and a disgustingly rich dessert, then let's do it" I then told her my plans to go to a concert with a friend tonight and asked her plans, was she still away... Anyway, that's that. We'll see where it leads...if anywhere. I was driving to work this morning and suddenly what I wrote hit me "then let's do it!" OMG. But, I've checked the context of the sentence and it's cool lol. Tonight I'm going to a concert in the park with my best friend and hope it doesn't rain. Later Dbers.
That was side benefit. For me it was just the need to be assertive rather than just sit back passively. Anything here on is gravy...vegetarian gravy. She seems nice and I felt this was honest but her priority is elsewhere...which is understandable. Hey, today I got attacked at work...again. A few weeks ago a guy was throwing stuff at me and today I got jumped! Helping people suucks sometimes lol. I need a quiet evening with my best friend. Looking forward to it.
