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We moved out this weekend, me and the kids. Very emotional for all of us. But exciting as well. I had offered her the house while she is I between places and trying to figure out her life. She excepted!


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Seen her on Sunday, wow what an emotional reck she must be. She said she hadn't slept only two hours in the last three days.


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Trying to understand small signs? Like is calling me for something small and asking about what me and the kids where doing. Witch she has never done this whole time?


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Big step tonight! Her and her mom stopped over to see the house that we always wanted. Hard to tell by her demeanor if it was a good thing or a bad thing. But I'll take it as a good thing since a week ago she said she would never step a foot in it!


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Take it as a good thing, but quit trying to analyze everything she does. You will drive yourself crazy. Keep up the good work, and remember to focus on yourself and the changes you need to make so when she does see you, she will start to see a different you.


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Take small steps my W and I have similar problems in our marriage . There is no other man but I put a lot of effort into our kids and let our R suffer. One day at a time.


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I also put a lot of effort into my kids and job. One of my big problems was happiness and anger. Comes hand in hand. I took a look at that and if you change your mood. Most of the time your happy! Anger still a little problem. Fly off the handle pretty easy. Even with the kids. Any good drills or books on that?


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Since the wife and MIL stopped over last night. I sent off a feeler text to MIL to see if she liked the house. I got back "we will chat soon....she is starting to realize that your not so bad :)". My MIL has kind of been on my side the hole time witch is very encouraging. Keep working at what I'm doing something must be working!


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Well had another good night! I had offered the wife to help her move. Never thought she would except. Got a phone call yesterday and she wanted some help. So I spent all afternoon with her helping her move.

Came time for dinner and told her joking you should by me dinner for helping you. She laughed and said no you should take us all out for dinner( I have being asking to take her out to dinner even with the kids for two weeks). To them all out and said its time for the baseball game I'll meet you guys up there. Unless you want to drive together. She said I would l love to ride with you( I always said no to this, don't know why). Drove to the game together had fun! Dropped her and the kids off and she asked if I could move some more stuff for her and I did.

Felt like the whole night I was being tested! Some laughs and then anger about something from her. Always kept my cool and thought about what I was going to say. She made a couple comments about how I've changed. But unsure if it would last. She was missing some stuff for the house but didn't want to run to the store to get it. So I offered to run to my place and grab some stuff. And bring it back when she wanted to give a call. Got sick of waiting called her and I'm just going to drop this off for you and leave just so you know. She said I'm out of beer bring some with you for me and you. Did that and talked to her until two in the morning. About life and us and new life.

Have a big weekend with the kids so I offered to go shopping with her so we can get some stuff for them at the tournaments. She excepted for tonight.

Got one question. She always makes comments about stories of other people divorce life and it kind of tells me what kind of thoughts are going through her head. She had a story of an elderly women that left her husband not only to go back to him and later he left her. Interesting!

One day at a time! One step at a time! One change at a time! She's talking to me and wanting me to spend time with her. Even joking that I should stay with her in her house because she's scared of being alone( she said that not me). Just nice to spend time with her again.


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One stupid ?. Why would she keep asking me if I had a girlfriend?


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