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thanks rayzzz im here for ya as well brother...if they only knew the network of support we have here..lol


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Man this is hard....ran into WAW and she seems like she is super happy dressed all fufu...she acts like she is better then me, I acted indifferent but man I was ragging inside...after all I did while she was studying and going to school for her masters, to then turn around and say I did nothing to help her and that I was just another mouth to feed...urghhhhhh when she used to tell me how happy and gratefull she was for how I helped during that time and that now it was my turn to get my career going, it didn't work out and she bails...I wonder had it worked out where she would be right now??? money grubbing ungratefull biatch!!!

there I vented...time to go work out


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well work out was good...let out some demons...now im just a little mad..lol


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You cannot think of it as 'where would she be right now without you' I know its easy to adopt that line of thinking. Maybe she would have married a billionaire. Maybe she would have married a movie producer and be super famous. Where would YOU be had you not met her? Maybe you would have married a crack whore. So that line of thinking is not productive smile

Think about how you felt when you saw her looking happy and all fufu. Now do that for yourself. She will think the same thing. She wont say it, but she will not be able to help it because you were once the apple of her eye, and in some ways, deep down, still are.

Be the fufu guy she loved once!


Me: 42
W: 32
Married 7 years together 8.5
S1: 7 S2:7
Bomb #1: 09-16-13
Recon #1: 11/13
A discovered 04-03-2014
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well after like 2 days of nothing WAW called, we talked for 3 minutes. Mostly kids but there was some talk about her job. She sounded relaxed and so did I. I don't see anything changing until I land a fulltime job. Im getting out of the film buissness because it is very unreliable. One of her complaints was there was no stability with me. This job that I applied for is a new career for a big electric company (FPL). It pays very well and will allow stability back in my life. I can get my own apartment and start building my new life with my girls. I can see the disappointment in her face every time she asks how the job hunt is going. I haven't mentioned anything to her about FPL. Im waiting on human resources to call me for a time slot to take a test and get hired. Also during the week her cousin asked how things are going and she said better, that im being nice to her???? but she is still going through the divorce and still made cheap comments about me through out the vacation. Which shows me she is still angry and still emmotionaly in this.(good sign I think). First priority..land that job!!!! wish me luck and send positive mojo my way my DB friends!!!


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so july 27th is our 13th wedding anniversary, should I go dark for the day?


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No answers from oad I'm afraid.

I'll have to check back in to see the answers here as the 28th July is the 21st anniversary of our getting together and also the 8th of our wedding.

We'll be holiday and I'm already dark.

Old Dog xx


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now im confused...it seems she is being nicer and she is starting to show signs of how she was a few months ago before she filed and was confused. She texted me this morning asking if I brought the girls clothes back on wensday??? I told her yes its in the hamper...she said ok...??? she also called in morning and I did not answer...yesterday she called if I was taking the girls this weekend, I told her that we already discussed until I get my place I just get them Monday and Tuesdays. she was very nice and soft spoken...she said it was ok she just wanted to know if she can take the girls Saturday to her cousins bbq...then I told her sunday I was taking the girls on a boat with the cousins...she ended up hinting she wanted to go..so I told her come if you want, she said yes she wants to...I told her then the 4 of us will go together. weird..im confused a little because she is still working on the divorce. still seems floaty and still acts like she is mrs fufu...dressing all posh. any thoughts?? sandi2 or anyone?


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Sounds like she wants to be friends, but what do I know? I'm sitting downstairs on my own again after W scuttled off upstairs again.


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what happened odsnt?


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