He's actually PT and WOA. Recently, though, I've heard him mention that he's starting to feel lonely when he works at night (he's usually the only one there). He said he has started to really miss the family while he's there. He said the other day he has found he is more productive when someone is there with him - it lifts his spirits and keeps him awake and motivated to have folks around. (He's definitely an extrovert.) So I need to make sure I am remembering this and staying on top of it.
The bonus: it gets me out of the house! I could even take a book or something to do so I'm not so bored.
I swear by the time I leave those shops, you could eat off the floor. I sweep and sweep and sweep ... just to have something to do!
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
Isn't your H a QT person? I can see how his love tank can be filled up that way with "garage dates"... etc.
Starsky...how are you holding up with the "talk" to your W about your GD?
It ended up being late this afternoon. Hurting REAL bad here ladies, no hiding it. She can't stop sobbing and neither can I. Empty the dishwasher and I see her little Dora forks and spoons in the drawer. Go upstairs and I see her toys. I ache.
Starsky I am so sorry you and W are hurting. My ex husband and I moved to NC from (right outside of) Chicago and it was REALLY hard for my grandma. She missed my oldest son so much she ended up coming to visit for what was supposed to be a week and turned into 2 months
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
Important disclaimer: Starsky, before you (and your formerly-pleasing-sorta-codependent-self) try to use the word "hijack" right now while this topic is being discussed, and people are commenting to you on this thread, I just want you to know that if you say such a thing, I will hunt you down and beat you.
Accept that you have changed the lives of countless strangers for the better. And accept they want to do the very least they (we) can in return, and that is to let you know we hold you in our thoughts while you are hurting.
Now, everyone can carry on ...
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
I am so sorry to hear you and your wife are hurting so much, Starsky. Big hugs to you both.
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
I haven't been piecing as long as you have but your post I could have typed myself. I feel these internal demons of will it happe again and if it happened after only a short time of unhappiness will we both let it get to that point again? And if you couldn't tell me there was anything THAT wrong before will you tell me if it happens again? Ugh! Sorry not trying to rub salt in the wound but I just want you to know I feel the struggle with you.
For me lately it has been H's lack of pursuing me as much as he did in the beginning. We are both super busy and he recently changed jobs so he's settling in but I wonder okay what's going on what's changed?
