Talked with my Pastor, He is concerned with this recent revelation. I will meet with him Monday afternoon. Nothing I can do but work on controlling my reactions right now. Informed my BIL that I will no longer talk about this stuff with him so that we can still have a good relationship. I feel I've been putting him in the middle since for now she still lives in his basement.
Changed more account passwords and such to further protect myself. Boxed up all of W's desk and dresser. Then went out to work on some home and yard projects.
Have lots of counsel and support this week. Should be a good week if I let it. Now, let's see what my old bicycle needs. Oh yeah... S16 passed all of his subjects!! Very happy.
Made a mistake. Sent an email asking which address I should send legal documents to and revealed that I know of her change.
I think I can maintain now the idea that My life and the lives of my boys is all that's important. I will react only to that which truly affects us. She no longer matters in my life except for her interactions with them.
Feeling pretty good about my future today. Seeing W yesterday, I had no emotions toward her. This is a good sign for my detachment. She looked shocked when I came out with three boxes of her stuff. Told her to pack the rest when the boys and I are on vacation. Then she asked when I'll be done snooping on her. She couldn't believe I found her new address and new email. More lies, so I walked away. Someday this will all come crashing down. She's lost respect with the boys especially S16. He says she doesn't spend time with them when she takes them away. Her loss; It's out of my control. I can control me and must focus on myself and my boys.
