My Happy Thread!!!

[Wonka]

Tad,

This is terrific news! So happy for you.

I hope you've learned that stinkin' thinkin' does you no good at all and was a waste of energy, right? Might want to learn to give that sort of thinking the good ol' stiff arm trick the next time.

[job]

Tad,
This is wonderful news! The 21st isn't that far away and just think...a nice job w/a steady salary w/benefits.

Stay positive!

[Georgiabelle]

Tad,

That's awesome! Congratulations :-)

[LoisB]

Tad,

I'm so happy for you!! Good Job. ;-)

[MrBond]

Once things are in order, I HIGHLY recommend that you get some IC. Even though this is a great start, bad times will come. You have to start learning how to develop healthy coping mechanisms so you don't fall into depression again.

[tadpole1025]

Thanks everyone. I'm very excited. Can't wait to start. It is going to help us out so much. I was starting to get a little discouraged because I hadn't heard much lately. This has been in the works for nearly two months.

I'm just so happy that it is in my field.

I really wish my mom was still with us. She didn't want me to give up on broadcasting and would be thrilled if she knew.

Once things are in order, I HIGHLY recommend that you get some IC. Even though this is a great start, bad times will come. You have to start learning how to develop healthy coping mechanisms so you don't fall into depression again.

Yes. My benefits will kick in on August 1st. I would like to maybe go see someone, but the last counselor I went to (while trying to save my marriage) kind of rubbed me the wrong way. I just didn't like him. I'll see what my oprions are though once things settle down a bit and the benefits are going.

Tad

[ericmsant2]

Congrats! Happy for ya!

[uRworthy]

Hey Tad, congrats on the job. Well done you.

You and I go back aways so you know I calls it like I sees it, right? All done from a place of caring.

It took me three different tries with therapists until I found the one who was monumental in getting me through all of this. Dont let one bad experience stop you from getting the help you need. Its too important.

What do you think it would take for you to let your xw go? I ask because you still wear the feelings of rejection and betrayal like a shield. Using them to stop what is needed to get in, and that is acceptance. Doesnt mean you have to like what happened or understand what happened. It just means you have to accept it.

When you really and truly do, it will lead you on the road to forgiveness. That is ultimately where one needs to be.

Forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment. The act that hurt or offended you might always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, positive parts of your life.

Forgiveness doesn't mean that you deny the other person's responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn't minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act. It is a letting go of wishing things were different.

That's where your power lies, Tad - in the choices you make. Decide to stop allowing the resentment and the need to make sense of it control your life. Let it go. It happened. It suckked. Sometimes life doesnt go the way we think it will. But different doesnt have to be bad. Different is just different.

This is a new beginning for you,sweetie. Start it off the right way. So, she doesnt want the rock. Now you get to have it or one of your sons or even a grandchild.

Choose differently, Tad. You only get this one life. Start living it or it will live you.

[tadpole1025]

Hey Ur, we do go back a ways don't we?



I will try the therapist thing once my benefits kick in on August 1.

I have a hard time with the forgiveness thing although I know that I need to forgive for ME. See, in my mind, forgiveness to me means that I'm saying what she did is ok. And it is NOT ok. I guess I need to work on it.

I sometimes wonder if this mess would have been easier on me if I didn't have the other stuff thrown in as well - death of my mom, brother, losing my career, house, car....

What will it take to let her go? Not sure, but getting MY LIFE in order would be a big start I think. That will happen soon too because I start my new job on Monday.

I actually received a text from XW yesterday. I'll explain:

Two years before this mess started, I was holding a radio party outside of a Brooks and Dunn concert. We were tailgating outside of the venue with XW, about 50 of my friends, radio colleagues and a couple dozen listeners. We thought that we were allowed to drink there. Apparently, we were not and some undercover police officers cited a bunch of people. XW was one of them. We went to court and paid the fine. Tailgating happens all the time at that venue. That day though, they were cracking down.

So, yesterday out of the blue, I get a text from her. It was the first time I had heard from her since January when my mom died.

XW: "Do you remember the month and year that I was cited for public consumption?" (Funny thing is, she used to get on me all the time because she always said that I never remembered anything.)

I did not answer because I honestly didn't hear my phone.

About 90 minutes later:

XW: "Nevermind. Thanks anyways."

ME: "Sorry, I do not. You can look it up online though."

No response.

I am finding it is much easier to deal with her. The old "me" would have given some smart a$$ remark like "ask your new soulmate" or something like that.

Tad

[uRworthy]

Sigh...there she is again.

She texts you, which has you thinking about what she used to say about you.

Let her go already, Tad. It's time.

No more writing about her. Serves no purpose but to keep you stuck in the pain.