Accuray,
I've been reading your advice on the forum and went to check out your threads from the beginning (it's actually pretty hard because the threads are not all linked, but that's another story). I read your description of your XW and the pains you went through to try to save your marriage and it is very close parallel to mine. Your story is truly heartbreaking.

Can you come on my thread and comment on it based on your experience? Specifically, were there mistakes you made throughout the period that you would correct? I'm afraid my WW is very much like your XW, and that any Recovery will only be temporary. My first R lasted 17 years but in at least 9 of those years she has been mentally unfaithful. Were there signs and symptoms in your WW that you would have spotted early to tell you that R is impossible?


Me-LBH, 48
Spouse-WW, 48
Married for 19 years
Son, 12
BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding)
BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA)
WW filed D February 2016
WW moved out April 2016