When we first got married he went into a deep depression (long story) and he kept stretching out intimate times. Then about 1 year in marriage - he shaped up and wanted it all the time. By then my crohn's was bad due to stress. When I feel like I am not going to puke or have diarrhea I would say yes - otherwise no. The fact is that he cannot handle my illness. Now it is gone due to lack of eating for several months. Since he mentioned divorce he has been fake sleepwalking to get some, I have been saying no for awhile bc I know OW has moved to PA. We had a physical altercation about a month ago - which he started, but thinks I did - since then he says he is scared of me and does not come near me for hug or anything, just the stupid sleepwalking.
The whole situation is frustrating. In all ways he is saying he is done, but he is still here and has not filed. He says he will file when his situation is over. I don't know how to get to him. He is detached from me, and I am trying to detach. I have been having fun GAL.
Okay aside from the sex, what other marital issues did you have? I understand you mentioned the sleepwalking before and that you couldn't lock the door, but could you go to another room? What happens if you deny him sex while he's "sleepwalking"? Which I totally don't believe.
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When I deny sex while sleepwalking he keeps trying until he gets too tired to come in my room. My therapist says he is doing it bc if he gets turned down does not hurt his ego as much. I would give in at first, but once OW went to PA I stopped, as I doubt he would take precautions. We have been sleeping in seperate rooms for 5 months.
He keeps saying I have changed since we dated - but does not elaborate. He says I abandoned him last 10 years along with our church. When I ask - he just gets mad me and does not give me any answers,
Have had crummy 24 hours. Starting to pull myself back up. I need a shaggy to help me..lol. H monstered today and I threw it back at him, total 180. He was shocked and it did make him stop.
Do any of you have problems with disgust when H/W moves to PA? I get literally sick to my stomach when H gets near kids after he has been with her. Thank goodness H does not come near me now. I am so repulsed by this. YUCK!!!
I literally am disgusted by the site of my h. I'm not sure that makes you feel better, but I am . I don't "like" the feeling because it makes me think I made a horrible choice as a father to my kids. I don't know, maybe I did- I'm working through that.
Anyway, keep the focus on you. Try to laugh every day and take it one day at a time.
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Thanks for being honest. I thought I was the only evil one. I am trying to decide what to do. I am pretty sure he will be out all night with ow. I put him in his place and took control, which is a no no. He will pull 2 year old and stay out all night. Not sure if I should say oh too bad you are going to get fired we need your income. Ignore it completely. Say oh good I hope you had fun.
This [censored]. He was selfish before mlc, and now it is insane. I think I should rename mlc monster life craziness...lol.
Anyone have suggestions of what to do when dumb a stays out all night. Grrrrrrrrr
Just ignore him staying out, then you do it! Even if it means you go crash at a friends house he doesn't know that.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
Thanks for being honest. I thought I was the only evil one. I am trying to decide what to do. I am pretty sure he will be out all night with ow. I put him in his place and took control, which is a no no. He will pull 2 year old and stay out all night. Not sure if I should say oh too bad you are going to get fired we need your income. Ignore it completely. Say oh good I hope you had fun.
This [censored]. He was selfish before mlc, and now it is insane. I think I should rename mlc monster life craziness...lol.
Anyone have suggestions of what to do when dumb a stays out all night. Grrrrrrrrr
You allow him to stay out all night with another woman, and then just come back home any time he pleases? Sorry, I haven't been following your sitch. Definitely sounds like you need to put some healthy boundaries in place.
. I don't "like" the feeling because it makes me think I made a horrible choice as a father to my kids. I don't know, maybe I did- I'm working through that.