Well I sent 2 texts when the kids got up this morning and he didn't show for Easter bunny/egg hunt/breakfast..... sends a text when he got up saying "kids were up early?" I said "you missed everything, it was AMAZING"
He asked again for headache meds and asked if he could have the kids at all today, but if not he understood.... I reiterated our plans (which he was invited to be a part of) and said maybe after his family leaves before bed. He then asked for them overnight and I said I didn't feel comfortable with that. He said "they need to spend time with me too" ummmmm ok, I think I have above and beyond trying yesterday and today trying to include him. But I never responded to that text. 5 minutes later I get a phone call asking if I want a Dunkin Donuts coffee. I said no, have a great day and hung up.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
Scooby, he might in his mind blame me for everything but to me he acts like it doesn't even matter, like he has moved on with his life completely and didn't care about things being "my fault"
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
His family left at 7:30 last night, I sent a text saying your family is just leaving and I am putting the twins in the bath, that you don't even want to see their clothes (he is weird about laundry) he replied back "I am sure" but didn't ask for them or anything.
An hour later I get a text asking what time this weeks Dr appointment is (I told him previously) which I ignored.
An hour and half later I get a text asking how were the tamales...... I guess his mom told him I picked up tamales to have with ham for dinner, because I never said a word about it. I didn't respond. But then again I was busy dealing with my oldest who had hurt his eye earlier in the afternoon and the pain meds were wearing off so he was needy.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
H just sent me a text saying "do we have enough $ in the joint account to give/loan my mom $100"
What I want to say "yes but don't you think that should come out of your half of the tax return?"
The simple answer is yes, but that takes away from "my" money to treat the kids and me. He will still take his set amount of fun $$ for the month and still spend from the joint account on coffee, etc as usual so basically it's only me/kids that will feel that $100 missing.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
H just sent me a text saying "do we have enough $ in the joint account to give/loan my mom $100"
What I want to say "yes but don't you think that should come out of your half of the tax return?"
The simple answer is yes, but that takes away from "my" money to treat the kids and me. He will still take his set amount of fun $$ for the month and still spend from the joint account on coffee, etc as usual so basically it's only me/kids that will feel that $100 missing.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
I would reply "I think that would be most appropriate coming directly from you, don't you? Our joint monthly account is for our household expenses, and runs pretty tight, as you know."
Oh, I don't know if this makes a difference in how I should handle things but one of his big issues in the marriage was that I wasn't "accepting" when his family did stupid [censored] and needed to be bailed out..... that I was too harsh and didn't just help unconditionally.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
Thank you for such a quick reply! I will send him exactly that.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
Oh, I don't know if this makes a difference in how I should handle things but one of his big issues in the marriage was that I wasn't "accepting" when his family did stupid [censored] and needed to be bailed out..... that I was too harsh and didn't just help unconditionally.
If he ever leaves OW and comes back to the marriage, then yes, I would think that would be an area where you'd want to be more flexible on perhaps. Now? With where he's at???
This is a no-brainer. He basically "fired" you as his wife, did he not? I'm pretty sure that the definition of "mother-in-law" is somehow tied to "wife," although I'm no expert.
Well that didn't go over so well...... his response was "I looked at the checking account and there is $$ there"
My mistake has been that I am very "frugal" and instead of taking the extra $ out of the checking account and putting it in my own I left it in the joint one. STUPID MISTAKE!
I responded back that I had planned to use that $ for the kids to go to camp this summer.
His response was "well then I will just tell my mom it's a loan not give it to her and you will have it back in time for camp"
(Fyi I will never see that $ again, BUT I learned a valuable lesson and any extra will not be kept in the joint account)
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
