This is my & my H's 2nd marriage. My H said he wanted a divorce in mid February and he moved out a week later. There was issues with my family, differences in raising my kids and a whole bunch but I felt like we went through a lot together and would make it. It unraveled quickly and I don't know how to feel. I honestly believe that his PTSD has a lot to do with his disconnect from me. He still wants to see me and stay in contact but appears determined to get divorced. I don't know how to feel or if I should give up since it seems inevitable.
M 2.5 M - 34 yrs H - 41 yrs D -17 yrs S - 12yrs & 17yrs SD - 15 yrs & 13 yrs SS - 17yrs BD - 2/2014 Separated - 2/2014
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
Thank you but I feel that it is beyond hope as he wants to file sooner than he originally said. Also he said there's too much differences in how we want to raise my children, my family has turned a cold shoulder to him and even said disparaging comments about him which he found out about. So he has basically said that those things he can't handle and needs the divorce so he can move on as he feels stuck until it is done. I foolishly thought him staying in contact and wanting to see me more meant he was feeling some connection to me. I got upset in front of him and I saw the determination and coldness in him again....I think it is better to just give up since the divorce is inevitable
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
Thinking of doing LRT since my DB coach suggested that my H was having his cake and eating it too by the way I still comfort him and am available to him....
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
So I told H I was letting him go which I think I need to do so I can GAL and that really made him mad. I just thought that since he appears to not have any feelings and is doing fine that's what I thought was the best. I let my emotions take over and I am screwing myself in the process. Help
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
Well I have been in contact with my H and I think it might be an improvement that he has not brought up the D process and last night he mentioned us doing something together when I was just talking about me and my kids going on a trip. He still is bringing up the bills we need to pay off before we file so not sure what to think.
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
Went on a bike ride with my H today which I did ask if he would take me for one. He picked me up at the house and even came in to say Hi to my kids. We went riding around for a couple of hours, stopping to look at the new bike he really wants, buy scratch off tickets and then back to the house where he came in again and stayed for an hour visited with the kids and I. I know we aren't anywhere out of the woods but I feel optimistic.
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
I think I do one step forward and 3 steps back. I get overly excited when my H wants to talk & spend time together and he encourages me to contact him and then he goes quiet...should know better than that and keep my distance....I need to make sure I look at the DR book and keep on GAL. I have begun to plan for after the divorce is final especially with regards to my finances. I know that I can do this as it is getting closer to us filing at the end of July..I do not want my old marriage back but a new relationship with my H. The one we should have had all along. I am trying to not get too caught up in predicting the future as all of that is out of my control. I need to just focus on the present. I do feel happier and not as pessimistic as before even with work being extremely busy...
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
