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From labug:
"YOu said you planned to read DR this weekend. Have you started?"
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Yes, it showed up yesterday and I read chapter 1 and skimmed some other topics.

I will read more today and tonight,

Thanks for checking up... grin


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My original post can be found at:

Wife moved out to be with her tour guide lover


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Hey Labug are you in New Mexico, what part of the desert?


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Has anybody had their wife run to another man than come home after living with other man and reconciled?

Just curious as to the success rate of getting them out of the fog while still in it?


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You. Dan she is coming back to the house.........Not you? Why would you let her back in without reconciling?


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eek let me try that again. You mean she is coming back to the house, and not you. Why would you let her back in without reconciling the M?


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
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Ok so this is what happened. We met at the collaborative divorce table to see if an in-house separation would work for a bit, just until we paid down some debt. It was going to be tough to pay all our expenses and $1,200.00 per month for rent for her plus buying furniture etc.
I at first when she went to Israel had no problem. But then when she came back with OM and stayed with him for five more weeks I was not for it. But she is on the mortgage with me. So they said I can't legally lock her out.
So the fact that I saw all her clothes in the closet and her favorite teddy gone, and these new skirts that I think are a little short for a woman over fifty no matter what shape she's in I was like, forget now I don't want her here.

Also when she told OM she was moving home ( he's played this entire violence angle,) he purchased her a ticket for Israel in June! I know when she leaves again I am going to have to tell her to not come back...I won't be able to deal with it.

It's a nightmare


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Originally Posted By: sandi2
eek let me try that again. You mean she is coming back to the house, and not you. Why would you let her back in without reconciling the M?



We are both living. In the home..in seperate rooms. It's a big house.


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Well today is a tough one. Another sad milestone.

My wife will be in New Mexico at a Seder with OM and his friends while her family is on the east coast.

First time in 30+ years she won't be with us! and first holiday her kids will be knowing mom is off with some pos womanizer!

Just great !


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Originally Posted By: Oxford1
Hey Labug are you in New Mexico, what part of the desert?


New Mexico is the Chihuahuan desert.


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Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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