I will survive

[ForeverYoung]

I'm so glad that you are doing so well, Linda. I'm not surprised one bit that your new manfriend is smitten with you, you're quite the catch. Please enjoy talking his ears off!

[kml]

Linda, so good to hear your update! As to ex's atrial fibrillation....I hear fermented oatmeal is good for that (lolol)

[BrightFuture]

Hi Linda! Good to “hear” from you. I was wondering about you recently. I’m glad you are doing good.

Your ex is just unbelievable. Haha, he wanted to talk to you via Skype. Was he going to learn another language, LOL? What do you mean “it would not be fare to Russian”. OMG, she deserved that! It would be so ironic if you would have agreed to skype. Did he actually immigrate, officially? Wow, I wonder how long it will take him to realize the reality of all of it, and how long it will take RT to find another American, so she could fulfill her dream to live in Florida.

I’m so happy for you that you are enjoying your life and moving on. I can’t wait for that moment in my life when I say “I am DONE”.

Stop by once in a while to give us some wonderful news about your new life.

Oh boy… Just read kml’s comments. I’m sure he is in good hands now.

[Wonka]

Liiiinddddaaa!

You just slipped under the radar...you sly fox!

I am so happy to read about your update and how your life is progressing. You have a new boyfriend! How sweet!

Your XH is a real dud for not seeing the real diamond right under his nose. Now his senses are probably dulled by copious amounts of vodka which probably makes his vision hazy and sees OW in a different light. His problem.

As for your vision, have you thought about seeing a low vision specialist. Sometimes they do catch things that a regular eye doctor may not. Want to put this out for you if you haven't thought of this or pursued this avenue.

[nero]

Hey Hiya -

I'm soooo happy to heaer your voice. I thought you'd given up the forum for good. yay....

I'm sooo happy to hear you're dating someone and you made me laugh when you said you don't have to moderate what you say (stfu) anymore around the house. I know- must be great.

I had no idea - sooo, where the heck did you meet this guy and how long have you been seeing him? (if ya don't mind questions) i'm going to share your pleasure vicariously and feel hopeful about "it all" via you. You are such a love-muffin- you deserve it and i feel good hearing you say you're feeling good and happy with someone currently. gives us all hope for life "after" i'm sure./



I'm still physically where i was- i'm mentally somewhere else- no definition.

h continues to be very nice & a bit more "trying" and unconsciously (i think) affectionate - tho for what reason i cannot fathom. if ow is around- why bother??? but, it's more pleasant to be around him or with him- (not what it was when it was happy - but not what it was when he was being a real jacka$$ either) I know we're supposed to let go of the past - and not even have expectations for the future - so ta da.... i'm better at that all than ever before.

I keep thinking i'll know something more about self,life,etc when this whole estate junk is over. I can see that i tend to be taking life one "project" at a t ime. (well, one "DUTY" or job at at time. The estate getting done is not going to happen quickly tho, i'm just cruising here, working is good, I'm being my most diplomatic (trying anyway) and not having any overt battles with anyone in family. i reckon i can be pleasant and courteous and get thru this without bloodshed if i stfu alot (i'm quite good at THAT) AND just humour everyone - and get thru it. SINCE - i cannot get rid of all of them and their participation - i've just got to deal with it peacefully. so far- that's my outlook.

i get mixed messages FROM h - i plod along, etc. sos with me really i guess.

i'M SO GLAD you're okay with divorce and aftermath (pretty much) - it's a tough habit to break, etc... years & years of someone. interesting that he keeps in touch- but then, you were a huge part of his life and "him" (my thinking).

I do not see any real cause for optimism here - i am just continuing along so as to NOT cause any major (and negative) repurcussions in my own little life and household - i cannot honestly see how it benefits me at all to add poverty to my emotional "mix" one minute before i must. practical? mercenary? idk- idc... My eyes are open- I do have hope of a small and practical sort- and i'm grateful still for all the good things.

I always knew nobody gets everything- well, except (apparently) H - who truly gets to "have it all" - or so he thinks. i think it stresses him out too tho, in general, in the background of his perfect life-

oh well- not even going down the "i wonder" road there-

i'm okay and i'm mighty glad to hear you are too.

xxoo i'm gonna try and remember to pick up the phone and give ya a jingle. i've been kind of "hiding out" since mom died- too much hard feelings and anger and resentment floating around here for this girl. the less i think and talk about everything stressful going on in life- the happier i am.

Garden is great - been painting & creative alot more than last five years- so yay for that all. think i'm regaining my equilibrium - whatever the heck that is - or is going to be going forward...

idk- xxoo have a wonderful day

[RosaLinda]

Nero, I'm so sorry you see no movement with your H, neither forward or backwards, but it sounds to me like he is still pretty fond of you. My ex was fond of me too, but that was just not enough after all those years, especially when I was expected to financially support him AND accept his affairs. Gardening.....did or did you not promise me some plants so I could start a new garden in the deer destruction pathway?

Thanks Wonka, you have been such a supportive friend for so many years. No, a low vision specialist never occurred to me. I was just grateful that I can see as well as I can, albeit right-eyed LOL. Thanks for the suggestion.

Ellie, you crack me up! Fermented oatmeal to treat a-fib indeed LOL. And thanks Job and FY and Cat and Betsey and BF, you guys have truly been blessings to me over the past couple of years. I love you all a lot!

So, listen to this. Ex now says that he and the Russian are not really too happy in Moscow. She has a high pressure job as an accountant, and is gone from 7a to 7p 5 or 6 days each week, and he is alone all day. He is "not allowed" to have any friends (WTF?). They had been living in the city with the Russian's elderly mom and niece, and there was a lot for him to do there, but she got them a studio apartment in the suburbs, and there is very limited public transportation, so he is stuck alone in the apartment most of the time.

She wanted to move to Tampa-St. Pete, but now is thinking maybe moving to Chile would do the trick. She apparently has a cousin there, who also worked as an accountant, but was not happy in her work, so she quit and is attending the Cordon Bleu cooking school there. Although neither speaks a word of Spanish, ex and the Russian are thinking maybe they too might be happy in Chile. Sigh.....

One of my friends on the alt suggested they might be planning to try every continent LOL. Honestly though, it makes me so sad that he is still searching for that elusive happiness.

[kml]

He is "not allowed" to have any friends (WTF?).

Lol - well, of COURSE. Since he would cheat WITH her, he could cheat ON her, and all that spare time just means plenty of time for him to get in trouble. The Russian girlfriend must be watching her back every minute.

[beatrice]

Although neither speaks a word of Spanish, ex and the Russian are thinking maybe they too might be happy in Chile. Sigh.....

Oh my, you have got to love these people!!

[ericmsant2]

Although neither speaks a word of Spanish, ex and the Russian are thinking maybe they too might be happy in Chile.

1) I speak Spanish

2) I make a mean chilli

Hugs to ya (((((RosaLinda))))

[Rick1963]

My mom lives right over the mountains from Chile. hummmmmmmmmmmmmm Linda get me a ticket lol