Hi Linda, thanks for the update, I'm so glad to hear you are doing so well.
The DB vets always told us there would be no question once we were done, and this certainly held true for you.
You have a heart of gold and WILL find a man who truly loves you. Don't tell Ellie, but for some reason I'm predicting he will be 8 years younger than you.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
RL you are a cool, smooth lady. All the best with your eye surgery.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Thanks for your good wishes everyone. Bright, Job, Wonka, Complicated, MileHigh! Angela, Nero, Busting, Ruby, Forever! And Cadet, so nice to hear from you! I am so so sorry for neglecting all of your threads. Really sorry, you are all such loyal friends, and I love you all so much.
The laser surgery was a success! I can see clearly out of my left eye for the first time in 5 months. Just a mild ache and lots of floaters, but the surgeon said that's normal. He is quite the master of understatement. Told me I would feel "A" twinge, and then shot my eye with his laser 30 times. He forgot to mention the other 29 twinges. Lucky they strap your head firmly to the laser LOL or I would have run out of the room!
So nice to hear from you Wonka! Thanks for starting that new thread, you are such a comfort and excellent resource to everyone. It WAS so strange for my son to serve his dad with the divorce papers, but he volunteered to do it. H told him that it is just a formality. S28 keeps giving me hugs and has been so great throughout this whole ordeal.
Cadet, H and I came to an agreement beforehand, that he would keep his 401K so he has something to live on in Moscow, and I will keep the house. His OW tried to rile him up and wanted him to sue me for the value of my law degree, but he backed right down. He planned to go stay at his mom's house, but she gave him a hard time LOL, so he asked if he could stay here until he moves to Moscow in March. He promised to complete all of his MLC projects he started, like the never-ending fence and living room flooring. According to the court website, not only is filing for divorce this way a kazillion times cheaper than using attorneys, it waives the 70 day waiting period. But both parties have to agree on all of the stipulations, and there can't be other issues, like child support. Pretty sweet I think.
Thanks Complicated, I hope you are right, that there are people out there looking for people like us. There should be, right? We are loyal and loving and know all about love languages, and can validate the paint off a wall by now. But even if there are not, being alone will be better than living will all this pain, for me now, anyway.
I do not advocate that anyone stops standing until you are really really sure. Forever, you are SO right, it IS just like the vets promised, that when you are done, you'll know it. There will be no doubt in your mind. Until then, bust on, the process really really works!
And FY, a fella eight years younger would be just perfect, thank you very very much LOL! You guys are the best.
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
Thanks much!