Thanks Cadet. It is a lot to process, but things are going well. I feel like there is oxygen in the room again. When I was living with her, I was suffocating.
We have 3 kids with a 50/50 custody arrangement, so going dark is not really an option. She calls me a couple times a day. The calls are cold and borderline rude. They always involve her wanting something from me; usually money and kids scheduling.
I don't think she understands what it means to be divorced, or what custody means. On Tuesday, she called and said D6 was sick and wanted me to stay home from work with her. I explained that I had a busy day at work and that since it was her week that she would need to stay home. She got mad at me and hung up.
This weekend she has plans. She won't tell me what the plans are, but she wants me to take the kids for the weekend. I said fine. I counted 21 days this month that I will have the kids. I enjoy having my kids, but I wonder how it makes them feel. I also feel used, paying her $700/month child support.
My L said to just document everything and we can revisit the custody arrangement in a year.
Establishing a new relationship with my STBX is difficult, but everything else in my life is going well. I am excited about the next year and my new life. I am ready to put the last 2 years behind me.
My new house is finally in order. When we separated I moved in with my dad. My mom died of breast cancer 2 1/2 years ago and the house has pretty much sat "as-is" for the entire time. I have been going through closets and cleaning things out. The clutter is almost all gone.
The house is very feminine. Flower borders, curio cabinets with endless nick knacks. Painted plates and teacup collections hanging on the walls. It is exactly how you would expect a house decorated by a grandmother in her 60's to decorate it. It is really not the right style for my dad and I, but I like being reminded of my mom and I don't have the time/money to redecorate. I did let the kids redecorate their rooms.
I invited a bunch of friends over for the UFC fight tomorrow night. GSP vs Hendricks. I am a GSP fan, but like Hendricks. It should be a good fight. Since most of my friends are married and the woman don't care about the fight, we are also going to have a game night. It is the first time I have invited people over in over a year.
My STBX leaves for Haiti again on Sunday, so I get 2 weeks with the kids without any parenting advice from my ex. Yea-haw....
My L said to just document everything and we can revisit the custody arrangement in a year.
Good advice,
I guess I would take all the time with my kids that I could get. But that is just me, your kids are only this age once and then there is no getting that time back.
Cadet - I am thankful that I get time with my kids. I could do without having to pay for it. All in all, I am truly blessed and shouldn't complain. I am just glad things are moving to closure. It has been a rough year.
The truth is, my W is struggling. I worry about her.
Feeling down today. I feel very lonely and am jealous of my W. She is dating multiple men. Her phone never stops ringing. She has dates, a sex life, people calling her and telling her how much they want to be with her. I am her babysitter.
I want a romantic relationship. I want to hear I love you. I am tired of sleeping alone. I want sex!
In my head, I know her relationships are shallow and empty; broken people using each other. I know that I am not emotionally capable of having a healthy romantic relationship right now. I know that my kids need me and I should be thankful of the time I have with them. In my head I know all these things.
