Thanks for the advice I received on the newbie forum. It made me think and really reassess.
While I know I have good qualities I also know I need to work on other areas. I have learned about these the hard way, seeing them being used by my D and my H telling me. I think some of these habits and ways of interacting are quite ingrained. Where does one e go to get coaching or advice on tone of voice when speaking, reacting in a non judgemental way, not controlling and organising every situation. The controlling one I think I am getting better at seeing myself and using some self talk to stop it. The tone of voice and reacting in a non judgemental way. Well that is harder. I know these were issues for my H but I also think it is not a way I want to interact with the world. Any advice. I am going to be better for me and then I hope my H will see some one who will lift him up not smash him down.
