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I'm really glad you slept well last night. Sounds like you are doing some true work, so positive!!

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He's walking his path and I'm walking mine. And I'm actually happy right now.


This is very good!! smile


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Wow! Labug. It would be hard not to have hope and expectations! Still wearing his ring! No OW! I'm sure he thinks very highly of you and respects you greatly.

Yesterday, in MC, the thing that H could barely say because his emotions were so strong -- it took him a couple minutes to get it out -- was that I am so trustworthy. That obviously means very much to him.

And he said he would want a R where he was transparent. Which he obviously is not right now. But, back to you.....

It sounds like you are in a really good place!


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Labug, you have been such an encouragement to me! I see you have time and desire to help people in their sitch's all over this forum. And it's always good, solid advice.

I am so grateful. I feel like I am learning things I should have learned years ago.

My roller coaster dips aren't as low now and the highs aren't as high. It's an evening out. And that's good. Thank you ever so much!!!!


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Had a great day! Only work half-day on most Tues so made a date with myself to go see a movie after work. For Christmas my sons gifted me Fandango bucks for movies. What a great gift for me! I've been wanting to see The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel and am I glad I did. I haven't laughed like that at a movie in a long time. It's about growing older, growing up, finding yourself, daring to dream at any age and of course, love. It's a feel good movie with great acting and beautiful backgrounds. I recommend it, especially if you're on the other side of 45.

I also saw the trailer for Love Springs which looks like it will be fun. Tommy Lee Jones and Meryl Streep as a married couple seeking advice from a marriage counselor played by Steve Carrell. Google for the trailer. Those early in their sitch may not be ready for this.


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I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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Glad to hear that you got some rest and then had such a great day!

I saw the Love Springs trailer before the Avengers a few weeks ago. It definitely struck a nerve but I could see the humor in it. Plus who doesn't love Meryl!?

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Me41(2nd M) W38(3rd M) M7 T10
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AOM 4/17
Bomb 5/27

Can I set her free???

Story as she would tell it.
I never turned out to be the person I posted I was online.
We met right as each of our previous marriages were ending.Making out on the second date. I felt I loved her early on.

We married and I became injured and went on workmens comp soon after we were married. That was the beginning of the end for her.I was unable to work or be seen doing anything was in a holding pattern for 2 years till case was settled. During that time we decided to have my only Daughter.Five months into her pregnancy I was busted looking at porn on the web.That happen maybe 2 more times over the course of the 10 years.

I also expressed to her that i found other women attractive while on business trips but was never unfathfull.

I have been a messy person not keeping up with my share of the household after the injury but am better now.

We had a religious reawakening 2 years ago and were married in the catholic church after a couples weekend.

Maybe 6 months ago hints that she was not happy.
Followed by I cant do it any more ect for the last 3 months.
Me pleading to stay

About a month ago She told me that she had a encounter that was more than just eye contact and can,t stop dreaming about how it could be to be involved with someone passionately.

A few weeks later I love u but not in love Followed by I want a divorce.

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So i up to this point have been pleading for her to stay.
Have just begun my first 180 personal counseling and GAL stuff along with phone coaching.

Last night we had a melt down in public and she seems thru.

I have been given the advice to call her bluff at the next incident telling her she should leave if its that bad.


Im scared.

Planing to stay out one night this week where she can wonder where I am and I expect that will trigger something.
I don't want to be the one showing my kids my back by being the one to leave.
Am afraid of her doing crazy stuff like leaving with the kids on the night of a blow up.

Anyone been at this juncture.

Truly testing my LRM mettal to call her bluff.

Thanks for help

Trust

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Vera, I saw Crazy Stupid Love last fall and it left me sad. But I still enjoyed it.


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glad you had such a great day labug - and that movie sounds great - should take myself to see it one of these days

i hope the other side of 45 still means good things.

i started Melody Beattie's other book - 45 days to a miracle - i already loved th intro - and immediately wanted to type it out on here - a bit too long though

have you read it?

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Originally Posted By: labug
Vera, I saw Crazy Stupid Love last fall and it left me sad. But I still enjoyed it.


I'm not brave enough for this yet but I hear there is a fine young gentleman actor in it with nice abs, so I'm tempted...

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Originally Posted By: verab754

I'm not brave enough for this yet but I hear there is a fine young gentleman actor in it with nice abs, so I'm tempted...


Yes!! Once you are strong enough, it is worth the watch smile


-Autumn

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