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Glad u and your boys had a great day together Bug!!


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sounds like an amazing day.


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Labug, that sounds like a really nice, memorable day. Your sons sound very handy and helpful, too!

Thanks so much for the tip to read Laura Munson's book. I can hardly put it down! There is so much there that resonates with me! Thanks so much!

And I love the bike riding too! I rode 8 miles before breakfast this morning. 61 degrees & no wind! It was lovely. And very healing, too!

Do you do camping out with your boys?


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‎"In the most ordinary terms, egolessness is a flexible identity. It manifests as inquisitiveness, as adaptability, as humor, as playfulness. It is our capacity to relax with not knowing, not figuring everything out, with not being at all sure who we are, or who anyone else is, either." ~Pema

For all of us who are learning to float.


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Thank you, bug. Love that quote. I have already added it to my document of helpful quotes. It is a definite post-it quote!!

Thank you for helping me float... I think you and the other DBers are my arm floats smile


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I was trying to explain just that thing to someone today and I said I've done this for so long "not relaxing" Wondering if I'm a good parent, worried that I'm not doing this or that right in parenting, in my career, in relationships, then in M, then in ending it, etc etc and thinking about the future.

It's that crazy undercurrent you were describing earlier and I love the idea of just floating. Everything will be okay.

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I am going to make a beautiful sign today for my bathroom with my kids paint that says "Learning to Float"

thks for sharing


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That's an awesome idea BK ^^^^


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Originally Posted By: labug
‎"In the most ordinary terms, egolessness is a flexible identity. It manifests as inquisitiveness, as adaptability, as humor, as playfulness. It is our capacity to relax with not knowing, not figuring everything out, with not being at all sure who we are, or who anyone else is, either." ~Pema

For all of us who are learning to float.


I don't think I've relaxed a single day in my ENTIRE life. Maybe for a few minutes here or there, but never for whole days at a time.

I needed this...THANK YOU!


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right on the money. i needed to hear this. i want to float. i think im getting closer. thanks bug!


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