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#2248920 - 05/27/12 09:03 AM Re: Just call me Dakota... [Re: heartbrokeinsd]
Brit45 Offline
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You sound like you're in a really really good place. I'm so happy for you. Remember there will be moments that you'll get angry again have moments of being resentful when you do come back and read this.

I'm really glad you found a bit of peace today. Like you I do more tearing up than crying and when I cried yesterday I didn't sob so that's good.

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i understand how she can do things and feel things the way she does. i do not blame her. i dont agree, and thats okay. because i dont agree, doesnt make her feelings any less valid. they are hers to control as mine are mine.

really fantastic insight! I love it!

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#2248934 - 05/27/12 01:52 PM Re: Just call me Dakota... [Re: Brit45]
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You sound like you're in a good place.

Each bump in the road does make you stronger.
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M36 S24 S21
Bomb 3/11 Sep 3/11
Piecing 9/13 12/13 Reconciling

"We can make ourselves miserable, or we can make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same"~Carlos Castenada

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#2248972 - 05/27/12 03:44 PM Re: Just call me Dakota... [Re: labug]
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its a bumpy road today...

my D lost my sons cellphone yesterday. they found it outside in the rain. she txt me they found it, and was mad that it was wet. we never put insurance on it and she was blaming me. didnt have rice and the kids were sleeping. i told her it is not my fault that it was in the rain, its not fair to be mad at me. do you want me to bring you rice or not? she said yes and i did. she was talking kind of nice to me, but her phone kept going off. it was 11pm. i dont know who it was, didnt ask, but i have my suspicions. she asked me to come in and look at the phone. i told her i had to get going, have a good night and i left. with a little bit of dignity.

didnt sleep good, having crazy dreams about her and OM. im so sick of that. i need to work out harder. then i am to tired to dream. i have to go over there and mow her lawn and pick up the kids. i need to watch my mouth. be happy i even get to see her. jack and truegritter said it. i need to act my way back into her heart. thats what i am going to do. as much as it hurts to see what is going on, i still have a chance. when i met her she had a boyfriend. i never once said anything bad about him. i was just me. and thats who she chose. i can do it again.

go back to the beginning. have a beginners mind. this is not easy, but we are worth it.
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#2248974 - 05/27/12 03:46 PM Re: Just call me Dakota... [Re: heartbrokeinsd]
labug Offline
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Why did you take her rice at 11pm?

Just asking...
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M36 S24 S21
Bomb 3/11 Sep 3/11
Piecing 9/13 12/13 Reconciling

"We can make ourselves miserable, or we can make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same"~Carlos Castenada

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#2248981 - 05/27/12 04:04 PM Re: Just call me Dakota... [Re: labug]
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cuz im a sucker..lol. i didnt want my sons phone to be ruined. rice [censored] water out. thats how i am supposed to talk to him when she has him. i did want to see her, but i kept cool. if i can continue doing that i might have a chance. she asked me, i didnt initate. i left first. kinda wanted to test myself i guess.
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Bomb:1/07/12
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#2248983 - 05/27/12 04:06 PM Re: Just call me Dakota... [Re: heartbrokeinsd]
labug Offline
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Got it! I thought she was going to cook rice.

I've heard a hair dryer might work.
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Me 57/H 58
M36 S24 S21
Bomb 3/11 Sep 3/11
Piecing 9/13 12/13 Reconciling

"We can make ourselves miserable, or we can make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same"~Carlos Castenada

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#2248986 - 05/27/12 04:11 PM Re: Just call me Dakota... [Re: labug]
heartbrokeinsd Offline
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Registered: 04/18/12
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Loc: South Dakota
yeah..rice is supposed to be able to get moisture out of the touchscreen. i idont know. thought it was worth the try. and it goes with being dad. gotta try to fix kids stuff all the time. i know OM wouldnt have brought her rice at 11. he's at home with his family. scumbag..
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#2248988 - 05/27/12 04:12 PM Re: Just call me Dakota... [Re: heartbrokeinsd]
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Also, put the phone in a frost-free freezer for a couple of days. That will pull the moisture out.

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#2248998 - 05/27/12 04:24 PM Re: Just call me Dakota... [Re: unbidden]
heartbrokeinsd Offline
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unbidden-
nice call. never thought of that. thank you
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Bomb:1/07/12
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#2249000 - 05/27/12 04:28 PM Re: Just call me Dakota... [Re: heartbrokeinsd]
Brit45 Offline
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I just wanted to say you did a good job. It's difficult when there are kids involved. But it sounds as though you handled yourself well and were able to stay emotionally stable afterwards. Good job.

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