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guess its time to start a new thread. i need to figure out how to link my last one. anybody know how?


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Here ya go heartbroke, just open your original thread and cut and paste the link will do it:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2239038#Post2239038


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Stephchildren (all hers) SS17, SS12, SD8
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thank you so much


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day has started out crappy. hopefully it gets better. W asked me if she could use my truckto move out. i told her no. i am not helping her. she wants to do stuff on her own, so she can figure it out. she said she will ask OM to help then. i said do whatever you want, but remember what i said. i will not put up wit this treatment and we will ne done. going dark is looking more appealing


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She's made her choices.

I wouldn't keep bringing up you boundary, it seems argumentative. If you stated it clearly, you knows what it is.

Good luck, it will get better.


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Very sorry to hear that. But you need to stand firm with your boundaries. It's good you didn't help her move out. You need to stand firm in that you will not do anything to help her leave the marriage. It does send a powerful message. If she wants to be independent and do things on her own, this is good practice for her.


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correction: If you stated it clearly, she knows what it is.


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bug- i know what you meant. it is so hard to hear that stuff over and over. she told me she has hated me for almost 3 years. only reason she stuck around is she didnt have anywhere to go. that hurts. she also didnt remember what i said about boundries 2 days later. maybe she remembers now. im so sick of all this. i want to save my M, but i question it everyday. i dont know how long i can do this. it hasnt been that long, but it seems like forever.

timbits- i will not do anything to help her leave the marriage. i've done enough by pushing her away. it hurts to see all the mew stuff she is buying for her new "life". we never did that together, because we have bills and kids to take care of. now i'm stuck with the bills and she has a new life. i'm starting to feel very depressed i think


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Why are you stuck with the bills? Does she have a job?

What was in your separation agreement?


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bug-
she has a job. she is only paying bills for her new place. anything with my name on it, everything we need for a family, i have to pay. plus she emptied the bank account furnishing her new place. gave me 500 bucks. so i can buy a bed cuz shes takin that too. my son is supposed to go to hockey camp that is 400 dollars. so it looks like i have $100 for a bed. guess im still sleeping on the couch. i am sorry if i sound rude. i am not in a good mood right now. this is killing me, and she seems so happy about it all. which makes it hurt worse.


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