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If you have read some of my post, you already know my wife has already file for a divorce. However, I am not giving up yet.
I am reading the Divorce Remedy right now and I am at this part title: It takes one to tango.
In fact my wife have been staying with my in law since Jan 2012 till today. But from DR, I am asked not to be discourage and make the most out of the interaction we have. I would say our interaction is limited to SMS or whatsapp right now and it always the discussion of our 1 year old boy. I am also asked to feature the best possible light of myself in these communication.
As I have limited idea how to do these, I would like to seek advice here on how to do that? Hope you guys can give me more idea.
This is the exact information that your DB coach can give you. They are experts in helping you figure out the best thing to say and do when you have contact. You want to be sure that what you say and do gets a 'chink in the armor she has put up and that you don't push her any further away. There is a good deal on coaching now, so please call and I can get you in for Friday. Take care!
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Alright, I will stick to this thread, so sorry about that.
At the moment we have limited interaction. Once or twice a week and it is through Whatsapp or text messaging only. Discussion is always on our 1 year old boy. Example: if you bring him back in the weekend, what will you do? Remember to feed him milk and is time for him to sleep kind of things.
At this moment of time, I don't even have a chance to nag at her. I promise myself not to nag at her in future too. But the thing is our interaction is so limited and I do not know how to go on from here.
I am reading DR right now but it is hard to apply those strategy. As I read, the strategy looks to me that most of the time the trouble couple are still in contact. Things like cheerleading, focus on the problem free time etc. Without interaction, how do I proceed? I can't push the positive button when there is no interaction, even I make small changes how can she notice it?
I really hope to work towards reconciliation but I got to be enlighten somewhere. Hope you guys here can advise what should I do when I have minimum contact with her.
I only get to see my son on one day of the weekend. She do not want face me and she do not want to do things together with me and my son. She prefer to bring our boy out herself and i take care of my boy myself.
Is it possible for you to see your son more than that? He needs a strong father figure right now. Stop feeling defenseless. Can you arrange for a 50/50 custody?
Actually my spouse allow me to see him during the week day after office hour. That is to travel to her place and bring my boy down for a walk. The time limit is only an hour or so because by the time I off work, my boy is near sleeping time. I wish to go to her place too but my relationship with my father in law have turned sour.
I have asked her to let me bring him back on Friday night and bring him back on sat evening but she don't agree. He mention our boy is too young for me to handle alone. She do not want to come back and help up at our house too.